is it wrong to be in love with your kids father ,and be falling in love with your new boyfriend?

Answer 1

If your still "in love" with the kids' father, then you'd be better off not getting involved again until you work out your old feelings. But, if the love you feel for the dad is more of a friendship thing...then there's nothing wrong with it.

Answer 2

Well that depends, is it love or lust?......You must figure out whether the love you feel for both is real. If your "in love" with your childrens father, then it is not fair to the other guy to bring baggage into a new relationship but on the other hand you and your childrens father will always have a connection and yes you will always love him but there is a difference between loving someone and being "in love" with someone. So, first you must figure out exactly how you feel for this person and get an understanding of his feelings as well before you can move on.

Answer 3

Get ready for "Best Answer."

Listen. Every one of these well-meaning responses above all focus on YOUR feelings and leave out the most important aspect. Your KIDS.

There is not enough information in the question to respond with any logic without ascertaining some facts.

Where is the kids father? Still around? Dead? Abandoned you and the kids? Out of the country fighting a war for your freedom? Faithfully fulfilling a fulltime job while you raise the kids and get a "boyfriend?"

If you are in "love" with the kids father, why negate the children's future and screw things up for them? Kids see enough crap going on in the world without trying to figure out who their father is and who their mommy is falling for this month or next. The need a stable environment. Unless, of course, they are grown and out of the house. Then you can go ahead and fall in love with your new boyfriend.

Get it?

The kids. You made a decision to have them in the first place. Now you are trying to make another decision and put the kids on a shelf to figure things out on their own.

The kids need an adult to guide them while they grow up. They don't need to watch their mom trying to grow up.

Answer 4

No it's not wrong to be in love with your kids father because..hello...you had kids with him. You shared something with each other at one point in time that allowed you to to have his children and it is only natural that you still love him. There's nothing wrong with falling in love with the new boyfriend, but you can't open one door without closing another first. Listen to your heart, he will always be in your life because of the children. The new boyfriend may not be around forever! He will always be there but dont take advantage of a good thing by having them both because you may be the one that gets hurt in the end. Always love yourself and your children first.......whoever you are destined to be with, their love will prevail in due time!!!!

Answer 5

No, because eventually one will over ride the other, the only problem is this ;
Are you in love with the father or do you just love him because he's the father.
Some times we are in love with some one but also sometimes we love someone we use to be in love with. You will always love the guy who fathered your kids but because of circumstanses that broke you up in the first place your "In love" status is now downgraded to "plain love" status But as for your new Boyfriend he has no "Bad Marks" on his record therefore you are falling in love with him

Answer 6

Questions of Right and Wrong will always come down to YOUR foundational belief. If your beliefs fall in the tradition of this country's Judeo /Christian heritage than you should follow the biblical mandate to love and honer God first, family second and love your neighbor as yourself. Don't allow yourself to dishonor God by embracing sexual extra-marital relationships. This may not be easy but we do have real choices and need not fall victim to our own lusts and desires. On the other hand, you could opt for the ever-more-popular belief "Secular-Humanism" , in which case (as someone else posted) "let the good times roll." All that matters in that YOUR happy (and somehow being true to yourself will, in the end, be the best for all) You have my prayers

Answer 7

Don't worry girl! YOU HAVE NOT COMMITTED A CRIME BECAUSE YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH TWO PEOPLE! It's absolutely normal! Every woman has felt once in her life like this! Just face it!
It can't be more normal to be in love with the father of your kids! When you and him were together, you were in love and wanted to create a family. That's the explanation. Now, this spark of love is back and you want him back.
As it concerns now your new boyfriend, it's quite obvious that you are excited with him, you are not in a routine yet and you enjoy your romance! You are trying to discover each other's character and you feel happy.
But this question comes out: WHO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE YOUR BOYFRIEND? I can't blame you that you want your kids' father back, BUT REMEMBER THE REASONS THAT MADE YOU TO BREAK UP.
If you don't feel ready to choose, enjoy the whole situation and you feelings! THAT'S LIFE AND DON'T FEEL GUILTY AT ALL!

Answer 8

You will always have a special bond with your child's father because you had a child together. And he will never be out of your life.

You should never expect to lose that. And your new boyfriend needs to be mature enough to realize that there are parts of your life that will always be special bewteen you and your child's father. Your new boyfriend should not expect that to end.

Also, you should not expect to have the same level of love or passion with your boyfriend that you had with your child's father.

Another similar situation, would be someone that was married, and their spouse passed away, and now they are in a new relationship. It is not reasonable to expect to recreate or replace what you had with someone else.

Answer 9

You will always have feelings for the father of your children. But you need to ask yourself whether or not you want to pursue a long term relationship with this new boyfriend. At least give him a chance

Answer 10

No cause you'll always have love for the person who fathered your kids and if can;t stop thinking about him then your fooling your self into falling for another