So far I have managed to avoid the question from my boyfriend but think it will come up soon. I think he thinks I am very innocent and have only slept with 2 or 3 people but its been 15! I really dont want to dissapoint him, he keeps saying what's in my past is in my past but I don't want him to think badly of me, I have changed now and regret most of them!
2006-06-14 04:22:13 · 23 answers · asked by ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think every guy likes to pretend that his gfriend is special to him and she has never been in love, or lusted, after other men before.
Leave him thinking its 2 or 3. In what way would you relationship benefit by tellling him??
If there was ever some reason to tell the truth then dont lie about it again - but unless it ever comes up then some things just dont need to be said.
2006-06-18 21:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ross J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is none of his business. Anyone that asks their partner about and how many before is absolutely stupid. If he can't accept you as you are then it is time to go elsewhere. I have been around for a long time and have had many girlfriends and lived with several as well. I never ask about past boys. I don't even want to hear about them. I never talk to one abut another. I have been asked by some and did not answer but if they asked again they were no longer my girl friend. People should accept each other for what they are and not for what they have done in the past.
2006-06-14 04:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep telling this to all your boyfriends you are only likely to increase the scorecard coz u get dumped and have to move to another relationship. If you've mended your ways and he does not wanna know your past why tell him? Although 15 is a bit much! How old are you? I hope you have no STDs tht you pass on to this poor chap!
2006-06-14 04:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you have been with 15 people and he don't want you that is his business. If you lie you are just making yourself a lieing S___ when he finds out. Remember, each person you were with will welcome the opportunity to brag about how they nailed you when they see him, your friends will tell on you, and especially your best friends will tell on you. You'll probably even tell on yourself and he might even see this posting. I saw one case of a women that lied about the one other guy and got away with it until she died -- then her sister told on her and an 80-year old man was devastated because he found out he lived his whole life in a lie.
The only person you can lie to is yourself if you think that he won't find out anyway
2006-06-14 04:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its best u if u tell him the truth, hey u made many mistakes but u seriously dont want to lose him. so talk to him, let him understand. tell him that most of the time u were just calling out for help. and the only thing that could help was sex. just saying. if he really love u he would, give u a chance.
2006-06-14 04:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by beautyprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My you have been busy! I think if I had been around the block a bit I would be economical with the truth! Needless to say I have had more partners than my husband and I haven't told him about all my sexual partners. He does however know about the longer relationships (ie those more than a few romps and one night stands!) and I think this is enough to say. Hope that helps!
2006-06-14 04:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kazcatlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was lucky i didnt have to answer that question until we were 6 months into our relationship but its best to be honest. i was scared to tell him because he had only been with 5 people before me but when i told him that i had been with 11 he was like thats how come the sex is so good and said it didnt bother him as long as i am with him now. always be truthful if he loves you then he wont care
2006-06-14 04:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by jturtle_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always say they have had more women than they really have,its called bragging and makes us feel macho.Women always say they have had less,because society makes them feel like sluts if they have a few guys,you know.If you think your boyfriend would freak don't tell him.But just so you know I'm not encouraging you not to be honest in other aspects of your relationship,if he really cares about you he wont care about that.
2006-06-14 04:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Shea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I had a problem with this. I was more annoyed that I wasn't told. The deceit was worse. I would have got over it eventually if I had been told the truth. If u have any respect for him you should tell him the truth and not b selfish.
2006-06-14 06:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by wotagem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both obviously have some trust issues since you are unable to be honest with each other.
You need to be honest. Your partner needs to know how many people you have been with, and by that, he will will know how many people he is sleeping with, every time he sleeps with you.
You need to be more honest, and forthcoming with information that affects both of you, otherwise, neither of you should be with anyone.
2006-06-14 04:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋