Is it ok to invite people to my birthday party at a restaurant & ask them to pay for themselves?

Answer 1

If your good friends are informed that you would like to go out with them for your birthday but you can't afford to pay the bill and ask them if this solution is acceptable for them (may be suggest not to buy a present). There are times in life when we do not want to feel alone but we have to work with what we have and good friends will understand.

Answer 2

Talk to the people you want to invite first and and tell them you want to give a party at a restaurant and they have to pay for their own food but don't expect too many gifts because some people can't afford both. If you give a party at a Bar or Club where I live then the people pay $5 to get in but they give you a section of the club where you can have your friends and food and you all can dance and eat and drink. or you could go to a smorgasbord restaurant and get a section reserved for your party and they will give you a discount .

Answer 3

It's okay if you can't afford it. But be forthright fromthe beginning. Tell them you want to go to the restaurant for your birthday but you don't have enough money to pay for tem. Would they mind comming along and paying for themselves coz you just want to hang with them.

I don't see them refusing. But you must also be willing to accept that there might be some among them that might not have the funds to come either so might not be able to make it.

P.S. If possibel you could even give them a cost break down so that there aren't any embarassing scenes at the restaurant if something goes wrong.

Answer 4

No. Since you're hosting the birthday party, you can't expect your guests to pay. They are going to the party to enjoy themselves, not spend money. Take it the safe route and make sure you have enough money for everyone. And just see how it goes. If people start paying, you don't have to then, but don't sit back and wait for someone to pay first.

Answer 5

Before passing the invitation, you can inform them that your interested in organising a dutch party on your birthday.. and then invite according to the reply you receive. This will not put them off suppose.

Answer 6

No it is not. You called it a party & you said invite. It implies that you're throwing a party for yourself and inviting guests. How do you turn around & ask them to pay for something that they hadn't planned. It's like planning your wedding & asking your guests to take care of the bill.
If you want to plan with a few friends to eat out together for your b/day no problem.

Answer 7

Should be OK - provided that you tell them that when sending the invitation. Make a nice card or something to give each guest to thank them when they join you for your birthday party.

Answer 8

Yes. Yes. Yes. It should be assumed that they all pool their money to make it so you do not pay a cent for your dinner and drinks. Now, don't go ordering the most expensive thing on the menu or bottles of wine, but yes, they should pay for everything. It is tradition. Those other answers are from cheap people. Have a good time.

Answer 9

No, that is NOT a correct way.
If YOU INVITE it means the bill is on you.
Otherwise a friend of yours would spread the word that "we are gathering to celebrate X's birthday at Such'n'such place and time and we (the friends) will share the bill". Everyone who attends will thus be warned in advance about such a delicate matter.

Answer 10

I think it is okay. If I were invited to a party at a restaurant I would expect to pay for my own meal; however, to avoid any confusion, you should let them know before hand that everyone is responsible for their own meal.