What should a mother do if her 5 year old son cries everytime she leaves him? What should she do if he clings?

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on her?

Answer 1

Give him a big hug, reassure him that mommy will be home very soon to give him more hugs and go out the door. If he is left with someone else during that time, have the person who is staying and watching him divert his attention to a new activity. Soon he will get used to the fact that even though mommy is leaving, she always comes back. He's just feeling insecure.

Answer 2

That is tough and yet painful for you as a mother, but first, ask him why he does not want to stay there? Is there something that is not making him feel good or is it just the fact that he misses you alot? That is very important, because there are times that this may be a sign that something is happening where the child does not feel uncomfortable., so communication is very important and make sure that you know that he feels safe and that he is being treated properly where he is at.. After you have cleared that, what you can do is try to talk to him and tell him that he needs to show you that he is a big boy and what he needs to do is try not to cry when you are leaving, because you will be back for him. . . . Give him, something, like a teddy bear; one for you and one for him, and tell him, that when you leave him, if he hugs the teddy bear, you will be able to feel him thinking about you and that you will hug your bear and he will feel mommy thinking about him too. . . . and what you do is leave him little notes taped to the teddy bear, so he can find it when you are leaving him... It could be that he just misses you and is only use to having you around . . . also, get him into activities, like baseball, etc.,, because this will help him be more independent and socialize more . . .

Answer 3

I would find out why before I did anything. Is he afraid to be left and if so why? Was he mistreated by someone who was babysitting him? Has someone been scaring him? If none of that then I would sit him down and ask him, then listen to him. If there is no reason for him to fear being left then I would ask the sitter what he does when I leave. Does he cry himself sick or does he stop crying when I'm gone and start to play? If it's a little power struggle I would explain that I have to leave but reassure him that you'll be back. If he is really afraid, I'd spend more time with him trying to remedy that. If he is just being a brat I'd be firm, if pleasantly firm doesn't work , I'd find another sitter, I really hate the idea ofspanking him over something like this, because you don't know what is behind it.

Answer 4

talk to your child explain why mommy is leaving him
tell him mommy loves him and will be back soon
also try rewards like giving him suckers or sticker maybe even a small toy or something
tell him if he is a good boy mommy will give him icecream after dinner or cookies oatmeal rasin are good there healthy
spend more time with him when he is home with you
let him help set the table for dinner
the main thing is reasurence
reasure him he will be fine ask him if something bad happen at the babysitters house
maybe the babysitter has hurt him in some way
it happens more than you no

Answer 5

It is just fear of detachment. Most children go through it. The best thing that a parent can do is just leave anyway. The child will eventually calm down. Child care providers understand this and know that they will have to calm them down. If it is at home, try yo get the child interested in something else besides mommy. If you can get him/her interested in a toy or something, then he/she may stop clinging so much.

No worries though, it is just a phase that all children go through. He/She will get over it eventually.

Answer 6

I think it breaks her heart to have that happen to her. BUT, my child did the same thing to me when he was in preschool. I pryed myself away from him with the help of the teacher! lol

Once u leave, he will be ok. he will start playing with the toys and the other kids. soon he will calm down and forget about u leaving.

After a couple of weeks or so, he will walk in there and not worry about u leaving. He will know u will be back soon to pick him up. He just needs that concept that u will come back and that u haven't abandoned him.

Good Luck,
NANNY

Answer 7

This is classic separation anxiety in a child. She needs to get to his eye level, calmy explain that "mommy will be back", no long drawn out explanations necessary.

Then when she gets home, the first thing is say "see mommy came home", reasurring him she was good to her word and everything is fine.

It may take a few times, but the less she feels stressed and guilty, the better.

Answer 8

Good advice so far. This is a very rough time in a mother's life, but the child has to learn that he can't be with his mommy all the time. Yes, he'll cry, but he'll get used to it eventually. My mom did the same thing with me. I used to work in a church nursery and we saw it all the time, but once the kid gets accustomed to the routine and the people around him, he'll most likely get to where he likes to go to preschool or his grandparents' house, etc. Have somebody distract him with a toy or a book, then the mom can leave .... he'll cry once he realizes she's gone, but no one likes to cry for too long, he'll learn to amuse himself with the toys/books, etc.

Answer 9

my son did the same thing what i did was to leave him with a hug and kiss for a very short period of time gradually letting it get longer so that he knew that no matter how long or short of a time i was gone i always came back its called separation anxiety and its perfectly normal but its harder on the parents seeing their child cry you have to be strong and they will learn its ok for mommy or daddy to leave they will come back

Answer 10

With my children I made sure whomever is taking them knows the plan. My plan is to give them a kiss and hug and tell them I love them and I will see them soon. Then I leave, whether or not they kiss me or hug me back is their choice. I give them one chance. Then I'm gone. Tears or not. It's hard, but they learn that they do not have the power to make me late. (My children are 6 and 2.)