2006-06-14 04:04:16 · 25 answers · asked by Robert H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, this would be my suggestion. Don't get involved while they're arguing, but when things calm down, and they're together, I would talk with them, tell them that their arguing is hurtful to you, and to the family as a whole. I don't know how reasonable your folks are, but assuming they're decent people, that will really get their attention. If it continues, you might talk witha guidence counceler at school, or some other adult authority figure. You shouldn't have to live with thier anger. Good Luck
2006-06-14 04:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Oilfield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Robert,
The first thing you need to know is that there fighting has nothing to do with you. You have done nothing wrong So lets get that out of your head.
I recommend talking to your parents on a one on one basis. Start with who ever you feel the closest to. Be very honest about how you are feeling when they fight. If you have notices a change in your behaviour since they have been fighting tell them that too. Also be sure to tell them what your definition of a family is. (one that doesn't fight all the time) If you have younger siblings tell them that all this fighting is not good for there mental stability now and possibly even later in life.
Maybe this will get the wheels turning and hopefully they will wake up and see that they have a family to take care of. I hope i have shed some light on your dark problem. Stay strong and be cool kid.
~nevah82
2006-06-14 11:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
robert when ur parents are fighting the best way u can do is go to ur room and let them fight. as long as they dont hurt each other. sometimes parents forgets that the children hears them or sees them, we must understand them because maybe thats due to alot of problems they carry, financial is the no1 reason. if in time they can patch things u dont have to worry. at times when both have cooled down try also to talk to either onbe of them and telll what u feel. perhaps and somehow they will realize ur not young anymore. and they can tell or share with u the problem in the easiest way for u to understand. or if u cant talk to them if u feel shy write a letter to ur mom or dad or to both at the same time. they need to hear ur idea bout the fights, that ur big enuf and its not nice to grow up in a family who always fights.
goodluck and be a good boy and always pray for a happy family!!
2006-06-14 11:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by lovingheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is horrible for you, I imagine. You should do three things. One, try and escape it in some comforting activity, but not drugs or alcohol. Don't hurt yourself, instead, read, listen to music, write in a diary, play sports, or go out to a friend's house. Two, try and tell them that they fight often and that it bothers you. You'd think they are aware of it but they're probably in denial. Three, find adult help, a teacher, a counselor, a religious person, the parent of a good friend, and ask them to keep it confidential. Remember, it is not your fault if they fight.
2006-06-14 11:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents fight, and there is not much you can do. Try not to blame it on yourelf. My parents divorsed, and both remarried, life goes on, even if you dont want it to be that way. You can try to turn your attention away from the fighting, but do not wander into bad things. Keep your chin up and keep your spirits higher. All you can do is try.
I hope that helps
2006-06-14 11:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kjo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your parents. Let them know how their fighting is affecting you and the family. They should definitely see how much you care for them and are concerned. Hopefully the fighting will simmer. Good Luck Honey.
2006-06-14 11:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by RX2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really tough situation, and sadly there's not much you can do about it. Sometimes people yell and fight to get out their emotions -- not comfortable for all of us, but it's some people's style. The best thing you can do is put on your music real loud, and just stay out of it.
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2006-06-14 11:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a grown up outside the house. It's not healthy for you to see this and your parents should respect you enough not to let you see this. Talk to a preacher, school counselor, if possible talk to social worker. They can help you out with this problem. They can get you and your family in program that can help straighten out things and keep you guys together. Find another grown up to ask for help in this. Good luck.
2006-06-14 11:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Robert W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my aunt and uncle fight all the time. i dont live with them, but i go over to there house a lot. when they start to fight just go in your room and start to pray that your parents will get along and that they will never get devorsed.....the Lord answers our prayers. this one he will answer for sure. if it doesnt get answered within 1 week dont give up keep on trying. that is what i did with my cousins and there parents are still maried and they dont fight very often and when they do they appoligize.
2006-06-14 11:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that age one time of life and my family fight all the time. They still love you and just leave them to fight and when you can talk to your father alone just tell him you do not like when he fights, and do the same with your mother. It works because it work for me.
2006-06-14 11:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by knighttwin2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋