I love my boyfriend. I wouldn't cheat on him, but I can't help flirting with two or three guys that are atractive to me. It's just talking. Could it be harmful?
2006-06-14 04:00:53 · 64 answers · asked by Cornflake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You aren't really committed if you are flirting with other men. You are playing at being committed. Committed definition below:
commitment
n 1: the trait of sincere and steadfast fixity of purpose; "a man of energy and commitment" [syn: committedness] 2: the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action;
Just ask yourself this, would I want him flirting with other women? When you are committed, your affection is an asset of the relationship, if you are flirting with someone else, you are sharing your assets with someone outside of the relationship. Therefore you are not really committed. The same as you would not want him to flirt with other women and by them lingerie. Make sense? Flirting leads others to believe you are available, which can lead to other things, i.e., sex, as in "we just couldn't help ourselves" Angelina & Brad" Denise Richards & Richie Sambora" . You don't sound as if you are committed to me at all to be asking such a silly question, you seem to me as if you are looking for a way out of your commitment.
2006-06-14 04:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Not if u dont do nothing.. See u can have other guy friends and talk and hang out. Just let them know u are dating.. But u should really spend most of ur time anyway with your boyfriend. Also if a guy invites u to a party, go if u want. But take your boyfriend with u and you both have a great time. Let him know u like him and love him by showing him. And turn down the guys who ask u out. Its hard..But a little flirting is not cheating. Belive me. Nothing wrong with talking to other guys. Cuz in logical terms. Hes probably talking to other females, but hes not serious, so neither are u when ur talking to other guys. = )
2006-06-14 04:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in a committed relationship, and I would not flirt with another man. I can smile and be polite to people of the opposite sex, but I would never go so far as actually flirting. I don't do anything that I wouldn't want my boyfriend to do! I would be very hurt if he was flirting with another woman. What would you do if one the guys asked you out? How would they feel if you then told them you were in a relationship? I just try to treat others as I would want to be treated!
2006-06-14 04:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by kim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know...I do something similar and my husband gets proud and just puffs up because he knows that I would never cheat on him and that home is where I will go. The difference between you and me is is that I am not attracted to the guys I flirt with. Being attracted to these guys will lead to trouble which I am sure you do not want. Find out the feelings of your boyfriend. If he is uncomfortable with you flirting then stop it!!! It all comes down to respecting the wishes of your partner and no one wants to feel like thier thoughts and feelings are not considered.
2006-06-14 04:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by gailandnormhare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gentle flirting is fine.
My wife has always been a bit of a flirt (in a nice way) and continues to do so ........ she doesn't know it most of the time. With in reason I actually quite like it - she's getting attention from other men & that kinda means that she's still hot!
By all accounts I'm a little flirty as well and so it all balances out!
2006-06-14 04:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by nickthesurfer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends.... A few words and smiles won't hurt anybody and will make you feel good (I am still attractive?, yes is the answer).
But the more you go in this direction, the more you take the risk to meet Mr Better... and off you go, passion and you name it.
So, as in many questions, there is no straightforward answer.
It is like driving a sports car to give you some buzz: when is fast too fast? Answer: when you crash the car. Do you have to drive 20mph everywhere? Probably no, but be aware of the risks and have a driving licence.
Good luck to you.
2006-06-14 04:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not feel that flirting is acceptable if you are committed because you can send a wrong message to the guys you are flirting with
2006-06-14 04:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's still cheating. A thought is as good as a deed.
How do you think your boyfriend feels when he sees or knows this is going on. Would you like it if he flirts with other girls?
2006-06-14 04:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure we all do a bit of flirting from time to time, its fun and healthy BUT dont ever be insensitive to your boyfriend by going to far, or being too obvious. Its just respect at the end of the day.
2006-06-14 04:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by rooba1602 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it can be harmful, I know that im a big flirt, but I know how to control my flirting. As long as it's not in front of him. And remember you have a guy, so yeah it's ok just know the limit.
2006-06-14 04:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by sexydutches327 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋