She is always in the bathroom doing her hair and changing her clothes throughout the day. I do tell her that she is beautiful but not every second or everytime that she changes or does her hair. I am not like that either so I don't know where she gets it from. So I was just wondering if this is just a phase that she is going throught or if I should be concerned. Thanks a bunch.
2006-06-14 03:35:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
They are ALL like that when they are 4 and 5... (I used to teach kindergarden.)
2006-06-14 03:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by angelpockets 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It very well could be just a phase. You didnt mention whether or not she has older kids around (siblings or not it doesnt really make a difference) and if there are, she could be emulating them. My middle daughter started becoming more intrested in her looks around 4 after her older sister started primping. She may just be trying to act grown up. If she watches you get ready for work or to go out or whatever she may just be trying to be a big girl. Honestly, you could probably ask her and get an answer. I wouldnt be too concerned at this age. If it becomes an ocd issue, then you might want to talk to the pediatrician. Otherwise, I'd say its just called growing up.
Luck!
2006-06-14 17:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by seanachaipriestess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was the same way when she was younger. She couldn't have dirt on her hand or she would cry. She was a real girly girl. Always had to have her hair done and have nice clothes on. But now that she is 6 she isn't too worried about her looks and plays out in the dirt will all the other kids around here. Still has her girly moments but for the most she's like one of the boys around our house. Your daughter might grow out of it like my daughter did but then again that might just be the way she'll stay.
2006-06-14 10:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by dee3737 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she must have seen some one doing the same thing. you should only be concerned if she feels unhappy with the way she looks all the time. for example: if she is always saying "I'm ugly" or "i feel ugly" and you have to remind her how beautiful she is. then that IS a problem and maybe you should talk to a counselor on how to deal with that. b/c it can become a lot worse when she gets older. she could become obsessed about it. she might end up being anorexic or depressed when she hits her teens if it keeps escalating.
try to get her focused on other things. and only have her play makeup and such occasionally like a treat. or whenever friends are over or if you guys are going somewhere special. she is too young to be obsessing about her looks.
don't let her watch you put on makeup. she will copy you and do the same things. children learn habits (good or bad) from the things that they see.
2006-06-14 16:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Pearlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 y/o daughter that is the same way!! Believe me, its just a phase. She is such a little girly-girl compared to my 7 y/o daughter. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look pretty...she is trying to be grown-up, like you. I did stop the changing the clothes thing, though...got wayyy to annoying washing the same clothes every day, knowing they werent dirty!! As long as she is into other activities, like coloring, playing outside, and playing with her toys and books, then dont worry...she is a princess, and she must look pretty for the public! LOL
2006-06-14 11:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that other people, ESPECIALLY kids, tell her she's ugly?
It is definitly something to be concerned about, but at this day and age, fixation about appearance can start happening at an earlier age than usual. Shoot, now there's 7 year-olds who are anorexic.
Maybe you should get professional help for her if you feel you can't help her, and let her know it's NOT how she looks that counts, but who she is as a person is all that matters. Anyone who cares about her truly won't see her clothes or ho she looks.
2006-06-14 10:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I suggest giving her some time. If she is doing this a lot, then there is something you can do. If she is so fixated with her clothes and stuff, take all of her outfits away except for 2. Tell her that she has 1 choice for something to wear today. Or you could make it fun. Make each day a "theme" day. for example: "Ok today is Blue and Pink day"! So she will wear those type of clothes.
Good Luck.
2006-06-14 10:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sam ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you asked that question because my daughter is also four years old and is the very same way. I was wondering the same thing!!!
Now that I know not only I have this problem, I think it is just a phase!!!
My daughter seems to have a very positive attitude about herself and that's a very good thing!!!
She has a very healthy self esteem!!! She does a better job taking care of herself than what I can do for her!
I am really proud of her!!!!
2006-06-14 10:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by MissShorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. My daughter who is three yrs old is the same way. She is always in the bathroom or infront of her little vanity doing her makeup and hair. She'll throw on one of her princess dresses and walk in her high heals.
One day I walked in the room when I was at my mother-in-laws house and my daughter was getting her hair braided (cornrowed) and she had this magazine and she was sitting in this chair with her legs crossed. She looked at me and said mommy go away you're bugging me. Although this was very disrespectful I found it sort of funny considering how she lookd at the time.
But the things she does are just so cute! They immitate what their mothers do, its natural. Be glad its not your son doing it (I don't know if you have one) because I would be concerned. Although I have caught my 5 yr old putting on high heals. I think he's just curious. Its alright though, nothing to be concerend about.
2006-06-14 10:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Nisi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, many of today's young children are fixated on their looks because of television and celebrities. It should be concerning if she takes it to another level, ie. anorexia or body worship. Sometimes telling her she's beautiful just won't help beacause she may think differently. Try getting her away from the TV and shy her away from celebrity news.
2006-06-14 10:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by wanderer11220 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the old saying "girls will be girls"!! They all have differant personalities!! Your Girl is just into looks, but give it a year or so, it will change!! lol!
..good luck, she sounds like a handful!! <3
2006-06-14 11:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋