and for a long time I said that I never wanted anymore children because I would have to divde my attention and affection and so on. Lately I have found my self wanting to have another one, but I kill the thought quickly. Am I overreacting?
2006-06-14 03:29:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My daughter means the world to me. How do think it would affect her to have a brother or sister. She is 6.
2006-06-14 03:33:31 · update #1
she would probably like having a sibling, she could be the big girl and help you take care of him.
2006-06-20 12:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. It's great to have a sibling. I just wish my mom hadn't have waited so long. There are 11 yrs between me and my sister. I have a friend who just had a baby last month & her other child is 6. She is tickled that her mom had another baby. She isn't jealous either. She understands that mommy has to divide the attention for her baby sister. It is really up to you though to make that decision. If you really won't another one don't kill the thought, just go ahead. Your 6 year old will probably like having a sibling. It's nice to have a brother/sister you can count on!
2006-06-14 11:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by beachbum26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it wonderful to give your child a sibling. Remember, you don't love your daughter any less, your heart just grows so that you can love your new little just as much. My son is 13 months old and I'm already 3 months pregnant with his little brother/sister. He loves playing with other kids and is so happy around babies (even newborns he can't play with). I think it's a very special gift. I also know that I would never want to be an only child. Yea, my brother, sister, and I fought A LOT but we loved each other and always had so much together. They are, and always will be, my best friends. Reconsider and maybe talk to your daughter and get her opinion. Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-14 12:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you maybe overreacting..or your inner self just rejects the idea,because of some fear,something that could be deeply rooted in your psyche as a attitude,how you understand devotion,care,affection..But be sure that you'll not make a mistake if you have another child..the opposite..You'll give your child a brother or a sister..a human,a person in the long run He?she will be able to rely on..Don't kill that impuls..Good luck!
2006-06-14 10:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting. apprently you have a beautiful daughter and would like to have another to care for. at her age she is used to all the attention being the only child and all. but i'm 20 and an only child, lemme tell you, its been lonely the past 2 decades. if you feel you can handle the responsibilty of another little one then go for it. at least she'll have someone to help occupy her time while you get the housework done or bake the cookies. Hope this helps, best of luck.
2006-06-20 08:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Cee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you kind of are. Why is it that you dont want to divide attention? What if you end up pregnant WAY later on unintentionally? Your child wont know what to do and will be upset that you cant give them all your attention anymore. Plus I think having a sibling is good for a child. They learn to share and play with others. And if they fight alot being little they will turn out to be best friends later on. I think having another baby in the house might be good for all of you. But it is ultimately your decision.
2006-06-14 10:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Preggo with # 2 YAY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was in the same situation....she had one son and never wanted anymore. She now has three beautiful boys and does not regret it for a minute. Please, don't stiffle the thought of having another child. Your eldest may enjoy the playmate more than you think. Also, just think you can play with more than one child at a time!! Don't be so hard on yourself. If you are meant to have another baby you will. Leave it in His hands
2006-06-14 10:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, having two children is not as bad as your thinking. You are not dividing yourself between the two. I feel that I show both of my children the same attention and spend just as much time with them alone as I do when we are all together. You will see It is wonderful to have kids and they will have a friend in the sibling. They will have a bond with them just like having one with you. I think you should only have another child if you are truly ready.
2006-06-14 10:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by danmiss4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great for kids to have a playmate, Im a 16 yr old girl and I have 3 brothers ages 21, 18 and 12. I dont know what I would do without them. We get along great!
2006-06-14 11:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by ani yehudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want 1, u should go 4 it. I always ALWAYS ALWAYS wanted a brother or sister. ALWAYS. But my mom never listened 2 me. now, shes 2 old 2 have 1. Its really sad. I think u should have another, bc when she get a little older, all her friends will have sibs and she wont. and i think shell like taking care of the baby. she'll really feel like shes helping. u shouldnt not have 1 just bc of ur daughter.
2006-06-14 11:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have one right away before she gets any older. I'm sure she would love to have a sibling to share her life with. After all, when everyone is gone, all you have are your brothers and sisters.
It's the best gift a parent can give to their child besides a name.
2006-06-14 10:35:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋