We are saving for a house and hubby says he would like a baby now but he still wants to wait until we are financially better. We have lots of money saved now but we haven't reached our goal yet. We both are wanting one but it's him that wants to wait a few more years. I'm ready now & it makes me want one even more now that our friends & family are having them. I held 2 newborns a few days ago & I can't wait! We live in an apartment now & it would be hard but I'm tired of waiting! I'm 26 yrs old & he is getting ready to turn 31 in August.
2006-06-14 03:03:37 · 19 answers · asked by beachbum26 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have talked to him...I don't think there's no convincing...
2006-06-14 03:09:54 · update #1
You are both young enoug to wait if necessary, dont rick him because you dont want him to resent you and the baby! Just try and be patient, and pray ... God has a way of working things out for the best. Good luck
2006-06-14 03:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee's Aunt is 37 years old. She has been wanting a baby since she was 20. But her husband said lets wait until we are financially stable. 16 years later they FINALLY have the house they dreamed of, and her husband doesnt want children now. So now she is left childless because her husband still wants to be a guy in his 20's while she is ready to settle down. So let me tell you if you dont try and have a child now, then you will probably never have children. Talk to your husband about this. Tell him that you can wait for a house but if you wait too long for a baby then you probably wont be able to have one. Im sure you can wait a little bit longer for a house.
2006-06-14 11:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Preggo with # 2 YAY! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me...wait until you reach your goal and settled in. The wallet drains real fast when a baby is in the picture. If you have one now, your dreams of a house will be pushed farther down the road.
I cant believe some of the people here are advising you to get pregnant without your husbands knowledge. That is horrible!
I got pregnant right after buying our first home. When you first buy a home, you won't have much left so things were tough. If I had a baby while renting, it would have taken alot longer to get into a house.
2006-06-14 10:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother always said "if you wait until you can afford children to have them - you'll never have them. Which is true. There is always something you want to buy and save for. There is the look on your baby's face that will make you forget all about money and just enjoy him/her. It's so worth all the money in the world. I have 3 kids. We just bought our home 3 yrs ago. I wouldn't trade my kids for a house anyday. You can't pressure him but it is nicer to have the kids while your younger. I had 2 in my 20's and one at 34. I have less energy now than then.
2006-06-14 10:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by melsamjer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never really "financially prepared" for a baby. you just make it work. Tell your hubby in a stern yet polite way, "I am not willing to wait, I am ready now." If it doesn't work, just do what i do, give hubby the silent treatment. After an hour of that i always get what i want. lol!
2006-06-14 10:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as gandhi once said "Learn as if you were going to live forever, Live as if you were going to die tomorrow".....
People take life and all its preciousness for granted...all we do in life is "wait"..we wait for a good education, we wait to find a good man (which of course is understandable), we wait for this goal, and that goal and by the time we are done waiting we are on our deathbeds....and all those "material things" wont mean anything...
Life is precious ....and if you really believe you are ready to embrace motherhood then you need to stand up T0 him and let him know.sure you could wait a couple more years to chase that good old American dream.... but how many of us are guaranteed tomorrow?.......we all should be glad we woke up today.....
2006-06-14 10:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would compromise with ur man, atleast move into a house first. My husband and i are leaving it up to the good lord to bless us with a baby. We aren't using any protection and we figure he'll bless us when the time is right. Good Luck
2006-06-14 10:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you force the issue he can end up resenting you -or worse your baby. For your future child you want the father to be committed and in the mind set of nurturing you through motherhood and your baby. I speak from experience of having a child- His step-father who is really wonderful to both of us and really doing the raising of my son versus his biological father. Is it possible you want a baby so bad to fill up something missing in your life or current relationship?
2006-06-14 10:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by explorergrrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never have enough money saved up to raise a child. i dont advise you just going andgwtting pregnant. this could cause your husband to leave you. tell him how you feel and suggest to him that you just try to get pregnant for awhile. if nothing happens then wait if you get pregnant it was meant to be good luck
2006-06-14 10:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are waiting till you are financially better.. you might never have a baby, do it before you get older and think your financially ready and are too old to enjoy it.. seriously think about it :)
2006-06-14 10:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋