Will he ever love again?

Question

Read my previous question about him not making love to me....and then continue here.....>>>>He used to say that he loved me but ever since that incident he cant all he says is that he misses me and once a day or so he says he loves me and last night when i left his house and told him that i loved him he said I love you too and i started to cry and i told him i needed to hear that...and he said well thats how i felt for that moment but you probably wont hear it often....but he still tells me all the time when i tell him that i miss him that he misses me too....so my question is: Does he still love me? and Will he ever love me again the way he did before?

Answer 1

In my opinion, you are giving this guy way too much control...what makes him think he has the right to add on after saying 'I love you'..'thats how i feel at the moment but you probably wont hear it often'.

I read your other questions like you requested, and there is only one thing i can't work out...have you slept together before? If you have did he know about the kids? or has he only just found oout about your kids?

If the latter is the case then i think give him time bc he is obviously trying to adjust to the fact you have kids. Some men find it very difficult to handle as they see it as more commitment. Even so, do not put up with any **** from him, like over the love issue, or birth control and even sex. He either needs to take time to decide if this is what he wants or he resaures you that he does love you but is just finding it hard to cope with.

However if he did know about your kids previously and has just started having a funny turn, i would seriously consider ending it with thiss guy. These kinds of men become very possesive and not very nice men in general. It is nothing to do with the fact that you had children with another man, its the fact he does not want to share you. And the only thing that concerns me is that you are already reffering to your children as a mistake in one of your Q's. Please do not be one of those women who put men before your children. You have to remember and he especially has to remember that you did not cheat on him and have these children, you were in a relationship with another man, the same way he has had relationships with other women. I mean he says he does not like the idea of you sleeping and having kids with that other man..can he look you in the eyes and say he has not had any other sexual relationships?

I really think you need to consider what kind of man you want in your life...

1. someone who makes you sad, on edge, uses love against you, uses your children against you, makes you feel guilty about having your children?

or

2. A man who loves and respects you unconditionally, who will accept your children, makes you happy and genuinally loves you.

The decision is yours, are you a weak feeble woman or a strong confidant woman who will put her children first in her life 100% and no matter how hard it is to leave someone you love, if they are not treating you right leave. Remember your children will copy the type of relationships and people you go for as you get older. let them grow up in a happy family environment.

I wish you all the luck and let me know what happens x

Answer 2

Of course give him some time,he need some space don't always ask for a response whenever you said I Love YOU or I miss you stuff..its enough you express your feelings towards him and if he don't answer don't force him he will realized it soon that what lack on him is the sweetness.He will love you the way as before just continue doing what you doing now.LOVE HIM with all you might.

Answer 3

I'm vey sorry to hear this. All I can say is MOVE ON