Im so unhappy and depressed because my mother pushes me to lose weight, im not the daughter she wants!?

Question

every conversation i have with my mother is either about my weight or money
im sick of her and i havent got enough money to escape her
i am misrable help me

Answer 1

First of all, don't start trying to lose weight for someone else. Do it for yourself. Do it to boost your self-esteem. Do it to make yourself happy. Your mother probably rags you about it because she hates to see you ruin your health and lower your self-esteem. Try telling her that it hurts your feelings and makes you feel worse about yourself when she treats you that way. Ask her to be an encourager to you, not to criticize and condemn you.

Answer 2

Ok - when I was growing up, I felt like i was big and I would mention diet and my parents would say "no, you are fine - don't worry about it" -- an anorexia wasn't even an issue with people way back then. I used to wish she'd just help me lose the weight as that was clearly what I wanted. Now, you are on the opposite end. If you want to lose weight, that is up to you -- you didn't mention if you felt you needed to or not. Clearly, your mom is upsetting you and getting you down and I'm sorry you are feeling like this. But maybe she's not really trying to hurt you but to try to get you to help yourself. She may be worried about you. You also didn't mention your age either. My son was chubby for a while but he also grew out of it and is now very tall and skinny. Most kids will go through a chubby period. However, if you mom sees that you are gaining too much weight she may be worried about what is going to happen later. Weight is a big health issue these days and remember, she honestly may just be worried about you - rather than trying to put you down. See if you can sit down - talk with her - let her know how sad you are and see what she says. Kids sometimes have a way of turning things around that parents say and then again, sometimes parents aren't using the "right words" either and come across wrong. Please try to love yourself on the inside first - that is first and most important -- then the rest will follow.

Answer 3

Don't be unhappy and or depressed, you need to tell your mom in a calm and nice tone of voice, that you don't appriciate that she puts you down, and complains to you about your weight and money, that you feel as though she doesn't love you for you are, and that it's ruining the mother/daughter bond. That mother's are supposed to love their children no matter what, and tell her this makes you unhappy and depressed because a mother shouldn't feel that way about her daughter.

Answer 4

you,it would seem need first need to ask yourself,AM I REALLY OVERWEIGHT,and DO I LKIE MYSELF,CAN I REALLY LOOK IN THE MIRROR AT MYSELF AND SAY,OK I LIKE THAT? IF YOUR ANSWER TO THAT (privately)is yes we move on,if your true answer to your own self(privately)is no,then i say stop,its not your mother its you,you cannot stand you, and you will always think its money or weight on your mothers mind cause its always on yours,you cannot escape from yourself and you will always not have enough money cause you do not have any self-worth,of course you are miserable,and even if you donot want help,believe me you need it..how would you deal with a young lady,who you brought into the world,fat and lost in self pity,and you ,would you as a mother,not feel anger,cause after all you got your youth and could do better that must really piss her off,where she now can only help you by destroying you .and you let it happen.

Answer 5

She just cares about your health and happiness thats why she is pushing you to lose weight.
You need to put it in the right perspective and lose wieght when your ready to make the commitment to yourself. Dont take her comments personally.It is meant out of concern.

Answer 6

sounds like your mother has issues, not you...tell her calmly how u feel

Answer 7

have you told her how you feel?