she tells me that she loves the world and everyone is beatiful and everyone loves her. It breaks my heart that one day she will realize that it is not true, that she will see how cruel some people can be. How can I explain that to her. She has a very sweet, loving, and caring nature, so I want to explain but I don't want to take that away from her either. Please Help. I appreciate every answer you can give me.
2006-06-14 02:24:40 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She is 6 years old.
2006-06-14 02:25:14 · update #1
She makes that comment to me very frequently.
2006-06-14 02:26:38 · update #2
I don't want to take that illusion from her, but I don't want her to be crushed by anybody either.
2006-06-14 02:32:05 · update #3
She is a normal kid. She watches TV, she loves to read books, she loves sports and she goes to school and has friends.
2006-06-14 02:39:26 · update #4
This question and you answers alone have brought tears to my eyes so thats how important this is to me. Thank You all.
2006-06-14 02:41:33 · update #5
She has suffrered some cruelty at school, but she doesn't have a mean bone in her body.
2006-06-14 02:52:00 · update #6
Don't tell her anything. She will learn the "harsh reality" soon enough. Besides, she may always see the world through rose colored glasses-do you want to be the one to take that away from her. I have several friends who live their lives that way and they are really uplifting people to be around-maybe one day, someone will say the same thing about her.
2006-06-14 02:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your daughter is, but maybe its not that important to tell her the world isn't a nice place. Maybe you should remind her that even though she likes people, she should never talk to strangers. Prepare your child for situations where people may not be so nice, but don't make her afraid of people. There are books you can get that are geared toward young children to help. You should only embrace the facts that the world isn't always happy when something actually happens. Try to explain things to her in a way she can understand them. She doesn't need to know everything right now since she's young, just the basics. She will understand the way the world can be as she grows.
2006-06-14 02:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by lissa_lou22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. You should be happy that she has this view of life. She's sure the universe loves her. That's the greatest gift you could give her.
She'll see soon enough that there are some bad people out there. If she's sure she's loved then she will be able to handle whatever comes her way. If, on the other hand, her mother breaks her heart at 6 she'll lose the strength the face the world and win. Next time she tells you that everyone loves her just agree and let her know that you're one of them.
2006-06-14 02:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell her that there are real monsters out there. She needs to know that some people will hurt her if given the chance. It is this very innocence that makes children easy prey. Next time there is an Amber Alert(missing child) use that as an opportunity to explain that unfortunatly not every one loves her and not everyone is a good person. This knowledge will not take away her sweetness or her compassion, a child predator will however.
2006-06-14 02:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a 7 yr old boy who feels the same way i understand....but i do make it a point of gently talking to him about the "bad" in the world. and taking the oppurtunities to show him what i mean, for example, two people fighting on the street or some less violent issues that come on T.V. then explain that not everyone in the world is gonna be as friendly and loving as he is. but as long as he has the love annd support from his family he will already have all he ever needs.
2006-06-14 05:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by hesluvinme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It´s beatiful how open-minded, loving and sensitive your daughter is. This is not a direct answer, but it just came to my mind - have you read about the indigo and / or chrystal children ? Your daughter very well might be one, and your daughter is basically right in what she beliefs, anyway. Of course, there is cruelty, and cruel people that take advantage of other people. As frustrating as it might be, you cannot shelter your daughter from the world. But the key is - to any situation really - how SHE REACTS to the more cruel side of life, the more difficult situations. How she will see them, how she interprets them. Cruel people are imbalanced, but they are beatiful, too. Maybe your daughter sees this, too.
I think children also watch how we ( mostly their parents ) react to difficult situations, and might start to copy our behaviour. So how do you cope with the crueler sides of life? Maybe the best thing to do, is just take things as they come, when she grows, show her positive reactions to problems when they emerge, always support her and love her.
2006-06-14 02:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she really does believe that evryone is beautiful. Because they are. But if i were you i would sit down and tell her that sometimes beatiful peaople do bad things and make the world a not so nice place. And as far as everyone loving her, just tell her thatnot everyone loves her becuase she has to meet more people. And just let her experience what happens when you think everyone loves you in the real world.
2006-06-14 02:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to know that your right the world can be a cruel place and I so can relate to you on this my son is a child with special needs and he does not understand that and I'm not sure if he will so my advice to you is to tell her that there is good and bad in everyone and some people have bad in them more then the good in them and that the world can be scary when that happens but she can go to you when ever she gets scared or if someone ever hurts her to go to you no matter what.You just need to reassure her after you tell her and I think she will be O.K after but also tell her that we all have good and bad in us but it is what we do with the good that matters most..God Bless Hope that helps out..Also not sure if you have seen the movie Where The Heart Is? that movie maybe something that could help you...GoodLuck I hope I helped some..
2006-06-14 02:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by kutiepye28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to be honest just tell her that life is not going to be perfect (it sounds like she thinks it is ) that people are cruel in this world and shes going to experience things in life that are going to shock her but if she holds her head up and thinks proud(like i think she already does ) then everything should be OK. It makes me wonder has this child experienced rejection at all in her young life by now my kids have and they seem to be prepared to go out into the world if you keep sheltering her then maybe she may not be ready but then again she is only 6 so just let her live life as a kid . Good Luck!!
2006-06-14 02:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by amulz1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her sweet trusting nature right now is like part of her development. You are parenting her well if she feels like that, because children have to first learn to trust the world before they can learn anything about it. Don't bust her bubble, life will do that soon enough. Just keep her safe but give her enough freedom to make her think the world is beautiful and everyone is good. As she grows, she will expand her boundaries, which will include both good and bad, but at her own pace. Then its up to her to draw her own conclusions (when she's much older).
2006-06-14 02:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋