I love her so much, I love buying her little things like flowers, cookies, suprise dinners, car accessories, stuff for her mom, daughter, but my friends tell me I'm a moron and I shouldn't spend any money on her.. In your opinion, is what I'm doing ok, or should I stop spending cash on her as often as I do?
2006-06-14 02:18:13 · 16 answers · asked by Chuck N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion you need to stop for a while or she will get burned out on all the gift giving. It will be a sign of weakness on your part.
You know how anything in life, if you have to much of it, it loses its quality you understand where I'm going with it?
Instead of giving her a gift all the time, do it once a blue moon that way it will be more speical, at least thats my two cents..
2006-06-14 02:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kain 5 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong. Guys need to stand up for themselves. A women should earn her own money and spend her own money on things she wants not the other way around. Take my brother for example who married a Ukraine last year. She is unappreciative of everything he's done for her. He's spent and given over $125,000 on her in the last two years. She is getting a free education, a free Mercedes and welfare money for her and her family. I wouldn't dare let her or anyone else do this to me. Forget the saying that the woman is always right. In a relationship, both sides have to compromise and communicate.
2006-06-14 09:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by scottsorgent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll wise up one day.
Let me ask you this: Is there ANOTHER way that you can show your girlfriend that you love her so much BESIDES spending money on her and byuing her things?
If you can't think of other ways, then you're buying her things so that she'll continue to like you. There's no actual substance to your relationship.....only YOUR need to get her things.
(And what girl wouldn't mind receiving such attention from a "love-struck patsy"...oops! I meant " from a guy")
It's ok to get her things once in a while, especially for a special occasion like birthdays, but when you continually get her things "for no reason at all" it changes the nature of the relationship.
You buying her things all the time is NOT a true indicator that you love her. It just indicates that you're infatuated with her, and that you're uncertain how she feels about you.
Like I said before.....you'll wise up one day. You'll see.....
2006-06-14 09:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pulse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's wrong. What are you going to do when you need the cash from your job and there is no other source.(Parents).
It's good to be generous with people you love, but there is a point where you have to look at how it affects your own well-being. There are some people out there who unfortunately will take advantage. Treat her well, but be reasonable about it.
2006-06-14 09:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is nice and sweet that you do those things for her, but you also need to think of yourself and your personal needs and what you can afford to live upon. But if your friends think you are a moron for doing this then think about it...does she appreciate all the little things for you?! Or are you just wasting your money.. My EX boyfriend did this at first and I like it for a month and then I expected to get something or him to surprise me with something or write me a poem, and it became old very quickly and I hated knowing that I was going to get something when I saw him. It wasn't special anymore cause it was a normal occurance...
2006-06-14 09:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to buy her things once in a while, or buy special gifts or buy for special occasions but when you buy her stuff all the time when you do buy her something special to her it won't seem so special. So just slow down on that.
Spend more time not money on her.
2006-06-14 09:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep doing that and she will take you for granted and treat you like DIRT. Those "little things" are only meaningful when they don't happen all the time. Girls like a little bit of a challenge and not a guy who is a total wuss who will doing anything she says.
2006-06-14 09:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay your bills first and set up a budget that includes her. If she doesn't love you as much when you aren't spending as much money on her as now, it tells you something.
2006-06-14 09:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mycroft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unless you're independently wealthy... in which case, why are you working for a paycheck?
2006-06-14 09:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess you get used to it. you cant do anything now cuz she is used to it. but i guess your just showing how muuuuch you love her
but dude you have to use some on you, too
2006-06-14 09:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by SS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋