We have 4 children aged 11 to 5. The problem is my 7 year old son, who 2 years ago suffered "glue ear". It's under control now and he is also starting to grow out of it, but he is still SCREAMING! Ocasionally he is still a bit blocked up and therfor his hearing is worse, but on the whole it just seems to have become a habbit to scream. He talks at a very loud voice, even when you are standing right next to him and doesn't seem to realise he is screaming. We do not scream back at him, but we are getting sick and tired of his screaming and constantly reminding him to tune it down a bit..... We tried to do it in a more fun way, agreeing that if we said a "secret" word, that it actually meant he was screaming again. Worked for a little while, but we got fed up with this as well...Any suggestions what we can do?
2006-06-14 01:51:02 · 14 answers · asked by dummy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just be consistant. if he screams dont acknowlage him. just hold up one finger (tell him what the finger means first). but dont look at him untill he lowers his voice.
its hard but you can do it. know why? cos you da' mummy!
2006-06-14 01:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by drunkredneck45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret word idea is ingenious!! I know it gets frustrating when you are repeating yourself several times a day for months, but it will work. As long as everyone in the family knows how to respond (I know it may be hard for the 5 year old to remember every time) and responds the same way every time he starts to get loud he will eventually grow out of it. This may take a lot of time due to the hearing issue but patience and perseverance are key in these situations. You're on the right track and you will get through this.
2006-06-16 07:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by passion8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him that you are going to ignore him because he is too loud and you will respond to him if he is quiet. Tell him this each time he screams and then turn away and take no notice. It has been going on for a while so it will take a while to get it out of him but try not to give up. Hopefully he should learn that he gets more or better attention when he is quieter. Also try and be alert to his requests because the shouting often comes when he has not got attention initially although this sounds as though it may not be the problem in your case. If you can intercept before the shouting starts it will help. Good luck, there are no cast iron answers here just trial and error, the problem with that is you need to find an agreed solution and try to stick with it. It does sound like you are trying but if you believe in the method it will be easier for you to stick to.
And thanks for trying to help with my problem too.
2006-06-14 09:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by ichybeard 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a 9 year old that we went through this with and it took awhile for him to get over the screaming. Yes it becomes a habit but you need to stick to your guns and pick one way to remind him that his screaming or talking to loud.You can't get fed up with him because then he knows that I get loud and I get what I want. And if he had problems with his ears for awhile then he maybe still try to adjust to the new hearing of things. Still after 4years I still have to remind my son every now and then to tone it down. But usually it when he's starting to have his ears clogged up again.
2006-06-14 09:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by ilovehim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had the right idea with the special word or signal but you just need to keep it going. Children normallly respond to something if they see the sense in it don't they? Just explain that when you shout and scream like that it hurts peoples ears and their heads and then they don't feel like talking to you (then when he's screaming don't talk to him) give him the signal or secret word and talk to him only when he turns the volume down,
It will take time- good luck!
2006-06-14 09:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by Digger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had much the same problem only it was 'paint eyes'. he was always walking into everything just to get attention. glass coffee table, roller skate on the stair, broken glass on his bedroom carpet, it was always the same old story- crying for effect. in the end i just cleaned the paint from his little peepers and everything was hunky dory. hope this helps
2006-06-14 09:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find ignoring my daughter works eventualy,however your situation is a little different because of his hearing issue, try just not responding, it is hard but they soon get the message and you are not being cruel, kids need to learn these things.
2006-06-14 09:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by kez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always wondered whether we could pick up our offspring in our mouths to carry them around, like tigers and other big cats.
2006-06-14 08:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Scozbo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep calm and relax as kids may find that if your relaxed they will chill out
2006-06-14 10:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by sexy_hot_relaxed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him time, when he is fully recovered he will stop. It is not deliberate that he is screaming, but he doesnt feel himself.
2006-06-14 09:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋