What do you think of young men in their 20s that have already decided to remain single the rest of their life?

Question

I am 21 years old and have no interest whatsoever in dating and marriage. I just don't see how fun it can be to committed someone. At least being single, you can do whatever you want, when you want to, no matter what others think. Also, I feel if I date the woman would just be using me.

Answer 1

That is your choice, son. Have you really considered what you may be missing out on? But you make the choice and live with the consequences.

Answer 2

You're just a pup, of course your not thinking of settling down right now, life is great!! your 21 and lovin' the single life. I joined the Navy at 22 and had a blast for awhile, but it got old after awhile. It's cool being married now to a really great guy that I can still have fun with. Being single gets lonely when you get older. Especially when your not in your "prime" anymore and your glad you snatched up a hottie that still loves you if you gain a few pounds, or get hurt in a bad accident and don't look the same, or whatever, hey it happens!!

Answer 3

At the age of 20, you really have not had the life experience, social developement or education to make that definitive type of decision. In addition, in your 20's, you have different biological and social needs.

Your personality changes throughout the stages of life. Most people who are 30 are considerably different than they were at 20 because of biological and social development. I would question a decision like that until someone is in their mid to late 30's.

Most people prefer the single life when they are younger because honestly, there is so much to do in this world. At your age, you are still changing and have things you want to do. Having a partner may hold you back in your pursuit. Seriously... have fun now and make this decision when you are older. I do know some people in their 50's who never pursued a relationship and turned out to be outstanding people, however, they all admit that they had to rationalize many years of life before they decided not to pair up.

Answer 4

at 21 you shouldn't be thinking about marriage. And where did you get all these crazy notions from? Yes some woman will just use you and try to tie you down like they own you but theirs not many of them. Sounds to me like you've been listening to or witnessed someone who has had a bad experience with woman. And if you can't have fun with the person you date then don't. However it's cool no matter what your choice is but I'm willing to bet you'll change your mind one day. :)

Answer 5

Well a good question here... Its utter stupidity to remain single as such.. As u said you have no interest in marriage it just cant be so. We are human beings. At one point of time or the other our mind changes.
Its not just comitting yourself to a person. Its all life. Unless you are being given a committment you just cant act along. If you are just comitted you would have some restrictions for you. Act what to your heart says. Because your mind knows many things other than you.. But only your heart knows who you are and what you feel..
Its just not that a woman is going to use you. For what does she going to..??????? Where comes the need.. Its all with your mind.
Anything and everything you have to be very careful in choosing your right person. I agree there are people who are ready to use our resources.. But all are not so... Not all are fingers are the same though in a single hand... Beware and be careful.. You will get the love of your life..
Remember... There are times and people who bring in smile and some times that make you to cry... But it takes up a special person to put up tears in your eyes with sweet smiles...
So just change your mind and make yourself happy with the love of your life rather to be single and monotonous.
This is just my view to your question. If I'm right just try changing your mind to discover your life.. If you think I'm not so just forgive me for my answer.

Answer 6

I believe that you either have commitment issues or you have some insecurity about a woman just generally wanting to be with you. You may encounter some women that just use men, but men have been using women for centuries (paybacks a ***** ain't it?!?) but most women are really genuine and just want a mans company. It sounds like you have been scorned by a woman or you have simply just seen what a bad woman can do to a good man.

Answer 7

I think it's fine to remain single if that is something that makes you happy. I am not sure why you would automatically assume that a woman would just want to use you unless you have something to be used for, in which case I understand. Try to be fair to women though. Not all women are users just as not all men are abusers.

Answer 8

You still got a long life ahead of you. There may be someone out there that will knock you off your feet. But if you do not, thats okay too. You will make that decision when the time comes. Good Luck with your life and I hope you do find someone, noboby wants to be alone.

Answer 9

I thought the exact same way and was very convinced of it. You will change your thoughts though when you are sitting at home and every friend you have is married and very happy. You will also find the right girl and be blown away and want to marry her (unless your gay, and then you will remian single for the rest of your life).

Answer 10

i am going thru the same phase right now but it's a lil bit different. i have a gf overseas but as days pass i'm not enjoyin it anymore, it's so superficial. right now i am tryin to see this girl but i don't know if she likes me or not. i kindda have this feeling like it's better i stay single until i meet the right girl for me without me makin any big move and letting it come to me just like dat. i just hope u still like girls though cuz if u don't, u might wanna look over the other side lol. no offense.

Answer 11

I just turned 22 and I think that's ok right now, but all women are not mean. I feel like all the men I date have been using me too, so you aren't the only one.