Please answer my question..i really need to know about this!!?

Question

lets say...u are a Buddhist asian girl and he's an arabian(muslim), but both of u are in united states. He is a very family oriented person, and rarely talks to girls( ithink its because of his very strict culture).He has feelings for that asian girl but he knows that it will never work since his parents wont accept her coz she's buddhist. so, he told that girl that he's engaged(it might be arranged by his parents).This is my true story, and i really want to know if ithe religion really matters in relationships. I know how most people from arabian countries are...they only like people who r same religions as they r...im depressed

he always looks at me, and stares at me..and it seems like he wants to tell me something but he never does.

Answer 1

Hi honey i am an arab and a Muslim, what i can tell you is that i as a Muslim believe in my religion alot i pray 5 times a day and i fast and i do alot of the requirments that my religion states. But that does not mean i am religious cause i just try to do whats right, but for me another persons religion is to be respected no matter what and if i were to fall in love with someone from another religion ofcourse i would want them to convert "But" at the end of the day your religion is in you heart if the person was gonna convert just for me theres no sense in doing that cause when you marry someone its for life so your life style will change your principal will change your values will change it will affect the way you raise your kids etc... you may not think alot about these things when you are in love but they will be very important 20 30 40 years from now when the young passionate life fades and in its place comes security, contentment, fullfilment you will want to lay you head down at night knowing you are secure in your, life in your habits in you prayer in the way you are directing your kids to grow etc.... if these things are to be decided between you and him in a sense of "we'll cross that bridge when we get there" fine then go for it but if it matters to either one of you that you somewhat specify what road these things will take from now then you have to think twice but like i said your religion is in your heart and people shoud respect that part of you no matter what.

Answer 2

It does not matter what religion a person is from it is only wise to marry of the same unless they are willing to change. Religoin can cause problems in a marriage especially when it comes to raising children. Would the girl want her children to be buddhist or would want the children to be raised muslim? THese are two very strong belief systems that will each facea challenge in the home. THink things through first and figure out how you would face each situation. You also have religous customs that may interfere with the other and that could cause problems in the relationship. Is the relationship worth leaving your beliefs behind for and embrace the others beliefs?
I am Christian and It is taught in our churches that it is best to marry someone of like denomination. Not that it will send us to hell or anything but it will make the relationship alot easier and life much easier.

Answer 3

Religion does play a big role in a lot of peoples lives and relationships. It come downto whats more important to the two of you. Is it your religions or your feelings for each other. Many people can find happiness with someone else that share different religious views. I don't beleive in god or any religion yet my wife is Southern Baptist and things work out fine with us. My personal opition is religion shouldn't matter but I know for a lot of people it does. This is an issue will two will have to decide for yourselves if your religious differences are something you both can live with and be together. Sorry the answer isn't more black and white and good luck.

Answer 4

Oops! I didn't read it correctly.I thought you were the man. Since you are the woman, I still think honesty is best.
If you love each other, then I think it would be better to settle here, or in Canada or Europe, rather than trying to make it work out in Asia or Arabia. Of course there are some other areas of the world where both religions are practiced (in Asia).
It would be key that you both made a conscious decision to respect the other's religion. Of course before you get to that point, you would have a lot to talk about concerning your expectations about marriage and all aspects of shared life (work, parents, friends etc.), to decide if it would be workable.
Muslim men make very good husbands, provided they are not fanatics. Give this relationship a lot of time to develop before you make any decisions. Get to know each other better.

Answer 5

look sweety I'm Muslim too.Muslim man can marry a non Muslim woman but only if she is Christin or Jews.this people who have books sent from god.Buddhism or Hindu we consider them atheist or Kaffer Manning that don't believe in the god the creator.so something like this (religion)is very important in this stage he cannot marry you.so it's better for you if he left you than you continue in a relationship don't have a future.only if you converted.look i can help you if i could you can send me so e can talk about it and might have a solution by god welling.sure if u wish
I'm really sorry for you i know how u feeling.i wish you a very good luck.
salam

Answer 6

Unfortunately religion,like upbringing will play a major role in a close relationship.And if family is involved as well, and are against the union,you dont seem to have a solid foundation to build a relationship on.

Answer 7

The girl must convert to Islam or at least to Christianity or Judaism (The three Abrahamic religions). Buddhism believes in more than one god, whereas there's only one true God. And the 3 religions believe in oneness of God (More or less in Christianity). In Islam, Jews and Christians are called "People of The Book". And it's allowed for men to marry women from them.

Answer 8

A relationship that is started on lies is like a foundation built on sand. You can erect the tallest building on a foundation like this but don't for one moment think that it will stand the test of time or the elements.

Religious traditions are a difficult hurdle to overcome and it is my opinion that one should not upset the families in such matters.

The best place to get your answers is from the Word of God. Go there first and ask Him.

Answer 9

I think I am the Best one to answer this Question, As my Father is a Muslim and my mother is a Christian. Religion I think is important in a relation ship, but I have seen first hand that it can work.

Furthermore, I am Muslim, and I have also married a Catholic, but in my case I have convinced my wife to become Muslim, and she has.

And Islam allows a Muslim to marry a non-believer, so I think there is no problem in your case.

Answer 10

in my opinion religion doesnt matter at all between the two of you as long as theres love that exist. the thing that matters is how the family can accept it. anyway you will not be living with your relatives once you get married. you will have a family of your own. so go ahead and follow your heart.