We been together for 4years plus.Today, i found out he has been in this dating service provided by the cellphone service provider.Meaning he has been secretly looking for partner behind my back.i confronted him on this issue and he told me bunches of excuses where i can proof it is all lies. It hurts me..Had caught him looking for other ladies behind my back during the 4yrs of courtship but i find it hard to break up with him, he is like my everything. i dont understand why must he do this and i find it unfaithful and dishonest..
2006-06-14 01:18:39 · 29 answers · asked by Failure 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What if i do the same back to him? 'eyes for any eyes'..do you think it is appropriate? But i cant really conclude he is cheating cox i only found out that he has been in this dating service for the past few mths..On the other hand, why would a guy 1 2 join such dating service while he has a stable relationship? a form of excitement? For god sake!!
2006-06-14 01:39:11 · update #1
He doesn't feel the same about you it seems, if he's searching for someone else. Don't break up with him, break his face instead. You shouldn't be sticking around, especially if he has such a history of this.
2006-06-14 01:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by sgrjackson1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, what you are saying is you rather be in a relationship where you are not respected and there is no trust because you have too much time invested in it. If you and the is man(and I use the term loosely)were in business selling widgets or something and you caught him skimming off the profits you might forgive him if he was was a hard worker and promised not to ever do it again. But if you found out he was working with a competitor to borrow against most of the business while making a killing for himself, you'd be out of there. Why have more respect and protection behind your money than you do about you? Every time he say he is going to get a double mocha latte you will have to wonder if he is really getting one, or going to some girls house. If he does go to the coffee house you have to wonder how many numbers he it getting from other girls. If he say he has to work late, does he? Or is he stopping off at some other gal's house? What is he bringing to you if he is dipping his wick in honey pots all over town? If everyday you went to work the boss called you a f***ing c***. You would not stand for it no matter how much you loved the job, or how good the money was, or if you been there 7 years. So why get disrespected for less?
2006-06-14 10:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your pain. The best advice I can give you is to drop him. Do you really want to try and force him into a relationship he doesn't want to be in? It may be hard, but your options are a) get hurt now while you have control of the situation or b) let him continue to use you for whatever reason he has (probably an easy access to sex or money- that's what it usually is) only to hurt you worse later when he dumps you. You've already caught him three times. Most people don't accidental do the same thing three times. Let him know your not going to put up with it. And for God sake, please don't do the desperate hurt girl thing and take him back because he "miraculously" changes after, like, three and a half hours!
2006-06-14 08:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by odytoboman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind. Sweetheart, you love this man but why? Knowing that he is looking for love in someone else should tell you something about your future with him. Say he changes and decides you are all he wants...are you ever going to be able to trust him? You are afraid of having your heart broken but he tore it a long time ago. Find a new man, one that appreciates you and start out as just as a friend.... because companionship is important and it's really what you need. Please don't stay with him...when you leave I guarantee he will realize that what he was looking for all along was right there in front of him but by the time he realizes, it will be too late. And there you have your closure. Nobody that is faithful deserves this. Let him go and don't look back until you are strong enough to live without him then one day you will look back and thank yourself for building up the strength to see clearly and move on.
2006-06-14 08:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i really hate to be blunt with you but he is going to continue to cheat because basically you aren't doing anything about it. This man is going to continue to treat you this way. How could you stay with a person that lies and cheats? Not to mention he goes out having sex with other women and then comes home to you. I guess it is going to take you catching some disease to finally leave him. Why is it soo hard to leave this loser alone? THere are plenty of men who don't sleep around on their girlfriends. This man has no respect for you at all and you are just too blinded by love to see it because you don't want to leave him. Welll continue sharing him with other girls because that's what you are doing anyhow. Hopefully you will wake up and i hope that catching something from him or him having a baby by someone else isn't your wake up call. Have a nice day!
2006-06-14 08:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by confused 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunney unfortnately he IS cheating.He doesn't want to be alone until he finds someone other than you. You should leave his *** where he stands. And i know from exerience how hard it can be to get out of a relationship but the truth is you will be better off and the pain DOES go away.This will make you stronger and able to meet the man of your dreams.This man probably isn't your everything you're just used to having him and you love him,but if he loved you,he wouldnt be looking for other partners.You're settling for this man when you deserve and can find sooo much better.
2006-06-16 15:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by heador26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you... I had the same problem! The problem is that you care about him too much to let him go. But this will continue happening especially if you condone his behavior. By staying with him you are only showing him that what he does is okay and that your feeling are not important... You need to make a decison, do you want to hurt now and heal later, OR hurt over and over again?
2006-06-14 08:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Alayna M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that is hard to break up with him but, you should do it! There are many many many men in this world, come on! You should have confidence and i'm really sure that you'll find a MAN, not a BOY, to take after you and protects you and he'll make you feel sure for him. You can be loved again, don't take it so hard. Go on! I'm with you! :-)
2006-06-14 09:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes... Once a cheater, always a cheater. He has already proved to you on more than 1 occasion that he can not and will not be faithful to you. So now you have a choice. You can stay and accept the fact that he is not faithful and more than likely never will be, or you can cut your losses and leave now.
2006-06-14 08:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Daydreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he knew after you took him back the second time that he could keep cheating cuz you are tolerating it. run far from him honey, you are too good for him. he doesnt deserve to be your every thing. i know it hurts but just keep thinking about it, do really think he is going to stop? if he really loved you he wouldnt have strayed the first time!!there are wayy tomany men out there trust me and some one would love to treat you right. i can not believe at one time i felt the same way your feeling but i got brave and left it now im with some one that makes my day every day!!good luck!! just remember you deserve the best!!!
2006-06-14 08:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋