ive hit rock bottom....?

Question

my brother is overseas and hes getting married to a woman hes just met, i dont know why i feel so down about it?
someone help me

Answer 1

I hate to burst you bubble there babe, but that is not rock bottom in the eyes of most people.
So suck it up and be happy for him. Your time will come, so you would want your brother to be happy for you in return I am sure.
He is always going to be your brother regardless of who he marries and or where he lives so you are going to be ok.
The best way to make it a better event is to accept the women your brother has chosen to marry and be happy for them both :)

Answer 2

Well first of all I understand your concern about your brother...it's a symptom that some guys overseas being lonely and in a new setting will get married to a local girl looking for a way to escape their country. There is not much you can do other than realize that it is his life and you can only be there for him when it all falls apart when he gets back.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you feel this way. He's so far and he cannot benefit from the advice you would give him. The phone or e-mail just does not do it justice. You must be a selfless-type person who really takes things to heart. The only thing you can do is give your best advice to him and let him decide. Then you can say that you've done you're best.

Answer 4

You feel down because you know he is just lonely and marriage is a dumb move to say the least...Or, maybe your down because you thought your brother had more sense....Nothing you can do if he's not listening to reason. He will have to learn the hard way.

Answer 5

Because you are afraid you are going to lose him by him gaining a wife is my guess. But that isn't true. You need to think of it as gaining a sister-in-law. Maybe you're worried about him since he doesn't know her well but ya know, sometimes things work out ok. It will be fine. Try to find a way to allow this person in your life.

Answer 6

Have you not seen your brother for a long time?You want what is best for him but will not know until you have met his girlfriend. You might be scared that he is making the wrong choice.

Answer 7

maybe you feel like you will be loosing your brother or that you are not as close as you used to be b/c you haven't even met his bride to be. this is normal. don't worry your brother will always be your brother regardless of where he is or who he's married too. be happy for him and support him even if it's not the brightest of ideas in your opinion.

Answer 8

it would sound to me like you have become to dependant on your brother,maybe in the pass you done a lot togeather,but now he is making his own life with someone other than you,you feel lost and empty,you need to find other interest that you injoy and gradeully make a life of your own,throught this you will grow and become secure in yourself,life takes many paths and there are many turns and twists in that path,this is just one of them, but be assured life goes on and how your feeling now will pass

Answer 9

if you love your brother then just his decision you may love her give the girl a chane it will take time but have a positive attitude. i have a feeling you were close, well maybe you can be close to her to if your brother loves her maybe you will. don't know what elase to tell you but good luck

Answer 10

Go to the doctor. Tell them you want to be checked for depression. Its his life to live or screw up as he chooses. So get yourself some help and just be there to support him and his new bride.