my sweet little boy is now throwing paddys if he doesnt get his own way,even changing him is a battle. any advice on how to deal with these tantrums?
2006-06-13 23:20:50 · 14 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
discipline is not the right word, i wud never spank or raise my voice, he is a happy little boy but has started tantrums if i remove him from something dangerous. i was after advice on tantrums
2006-06-14 01:54:08 · update #1
Let him throw a fit (paddy?). As long as he's not hurting himself or others, just let him do it. An 11 month old does not yet know cause-and-effect relationships, so "whooping his a**" is not effective and it's a dumbass suggestion, so don't listen to the jackass who suggested it.
Consistency and routine is the key. Distract him if he's fussy when changing him. Give him a toy or something that he enjoys. Don't fight him because you'll lose. Give him a warning before you grab him from play and run him in to change his diaper. He won't know what you're saying, but he'll come to understand the sequence -- 1 minute warning, 30 second warning, event. Same for baths, bedtime, etc.
It takes time and patience, but pays off in the long run. "Whooping his a**" is just juvenile advice (yes, hoss I'm talking about you and cindy_b too - I'm sure you have perfect well-behaved children -- probably too scared to say or do anything or else they'll get his teeth knocked out. I do have patience with children, but not bullheaded adults like you. Have a nice day, jackass).
We've never touched our daughter (she's 2 1/2) and she's perfect. Children have different temperaments, so some will be more difficult, but you can cure most bad behavior through patience.
2006-06-13 23:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by kpkilburn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a child of this age has "tantrums" there are basically two possibilities:
1) the child is affected by a medical condition (which might not be known to the parents and not visible as such) or
2) bad or inappropriate treatment by the parents or one parent in particular.
You should have the baby examined by your doctor, or even better by a consultant paedeatrician. If there is any medical reason for your child's behaviour, they will find it.
If, however, you are yourself the reason for the "tantrums", you are the one that needs help. A counsellor, psychologist or one of the mother-and-child charities could be of assistance.
Even the idea that you would seriously consider punishing an 11 month old boy is revolting. If you cannot cope with him now, what will you do when he is 11 years old?
It is hard to make a proper diagnose from a distance, without knowing any of the individuals involved. But from the way you asked the question, I gather that you have a serious lack of basic parenting skills. In your own interest, and that of your son, you should do something about that without delay.
2006-06-14 07:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Alex B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't! Never ever!
If you do, it would be cruelty and possibly child abuse.
A child of such young age does not need punishment, but care and nourishment. If you cant grasp that nettle, you should not have a child at all.
If a baby or toddler behaves erratic, it is not the child's fault. In most cases it is the result of wrong treatment by the parent(s) or another carer. You should look into your own behaviour, analyse what you do, and if necessary adjust.
In case you can not find any fault or solution, you should consult your paedeatrician or a child psychologist.
2006-06-14 06:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sean F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real question is why would you want to? Do you think he will remember it? If he cant remember it, do you think he will learn from it? So dont get so mad that you lose control. Give him time to grow up. memory begins around age 3. If he still does it the punish. but like the answer before positive reinforcment. thats the key. if you dont know what that is? Try saying come on baby do it for mommy,be a good little boy. do you honestly think he showing out. My God help you people.
2006-06-14 06:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty difficult to discipline a child so young as they really don't understand what's right and wrong, that said, you should always start as you mean to go on. Try leaving the room when he is naughty and letting him sweat it out on his own, take away treats and don;t give him any attention when he throws a wobbler!
2006-06-14 06:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by franpal_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a child that young, positive reinforecment, if that doesnt work, whoop his ***, i dont care what anyone else says, any kid understands a butt whooping.
and just for the record, kpkkilburn, ill probably see you on the jerry springer show in a few years with your "patient" attitude, and sure to be lovely child. i never beat my kids, a smack on the butt never hurt anyone and it worked just fine for me. my children are just about as well behaved as you can get. have a nice day!
2006-06-14 06:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by jeffy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pamper the child,be sweet n make the child feel loved.
2006-06-14 06:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by taurusflame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN HE THROWS A FIT, BUT HIM IN A PLAY PEN IN A ROOM BY HIS SELF, LET HIM THROW A FIT FOR 10 MINUTES OR SO, GET HIM UP, CONTINUE TILL HE QUITS, HE WILL SOON REALIZE, HE CAN STAY UP, IF HE QUITS THROWING FITS.
2006-06-14 07:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by lilacangelgrammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spank that *** and send him to his time out place and walk away while the fit is going on...then come back when its all quiet and give em lots of love
2006-06-14 06:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by cindy b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2014-06-15 07:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋