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I am an overweight woman, & I do get my share of attention....I am told all the time that I am a beautiful person...inside & out, but I always feel like some men look at me & are really thinking..."eww!"....BUT they still talk to me & treat me nice....yes, I do have low self esteem to a point, but I have a medical condition that causes me to be over weight...without Barriatric Surgery & a few other tricks the Dr wants to try...I am still looking at being overweight...no matter how many diets I go on...lol....My question is....do u prefer slender, athletic, or skinny women over women who are thick, chunky, overweight or large....I am not a LARGE woman, but can stand to lose some weight...lol....& please be nice....I really am being serious here....I would really like to know...

2006-06-13 22:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Okay.....I'm not a guy but I was tempted to answer this question. Just wanted to tell ya you're beautiful in your own way. Just because you suffer from a medical condition doesn't make you any less beautiful than you are. You're fine and you shouldn't worry about it. Let a man appreciate you for YOU and not your body. Oh and to answer your question, I've asked this question to my guy friends many times, not that I'm overweight or anything but just out of curiosity. And they said, they would rather prefer meat over bones. I hope I've answered your question.

2006-06-13 23:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 1 0

Would you approach a really ugly guy, or a midget? He might turn out to be a nice person with a good sense of humour and all that women "say" they want in a man. How would you know him if you donot even approach him or give him a chance? The first thing that attracts ppl is beauty and fitness and i don't care if you call me shallow atleast i'm honest. i would go for a beautiful thin athletic built. It's a reflection of heath and lifestyle. Then if she turns out to be nice and fun person it's a plus or you look somewhere else. When women are young and fit they go for goodlooking guys, when they're older had children they still prefer goodlooking guys but call them shallow for being exactly like them..shallow. It's your low self esteem state of mind, it's not that the guy is shallow.
My ex picked me up for my looks, (she was a little chubby) and later enjoyed my company as we came to know each other furthur. However she got into a comfort zone and put on a lot of weight and when i told her to do something about it she called me shallow which led to arguments and we broke up!
So by all means go and lose weight for your own health, you wouldn't be doing anyone else a favour.

2006-06-13 23:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2 2

What do people...both women and men have against overweight people? Most of my life I was in really good shape but then because of a back problem it was hard to exercise and I gained some weight. I could not believe the harassment I got from my boss, friends and others. Why do we make fun of fat people?

2016-03-27 03:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am not a man but would like to tell you about a life change so you know.I was almost 4oo.I have now lost 240 and I have seen in last 5 years how men are with me really some are sitting around waiting for me to drop my weight and I always hear them say your really cute but I just want to be friend and then they come back and see I lost more then that's when they want to come and talk to me ...No I don't think so you see being that we know how it feels to be fat and then you drop it one day at a time the person you become is still the same girl inside .You see I didn't do this for a man. I started it with my mom and we had lost about 75 to 80 each at the at same time and something I never seen coming was I lost my mom and they put was the reason OB and when I seen that knowing she was trying really hard but was to late for her ..But not for me and for my Mom and Me and women Hun just like you I'm going all the way .I think one of the things that kills me most is when a man tells a women I'm going to love you no matter how big you are..Not true I know single for 5 years and in my case my Ex left me for a bigger lady and why because I wanted to live ...So it's not about what you look like or what men think of your body on the out side girl it's about the power you have to make your self healthy and shine bright like a diamond for your self and don't worry how long it takes you if even it's 10 off in a year it could be three years added to your life and the key to it is your not on a diet and no Dr can help you if you can't help yourself it's a life change ..I can tell you it's not EZ but to let you know I have not taken pills and no one has put a band in me..If I go to the mall I'll park my car in the last spot not by the door and walk as much as you can..make your plait just like you always do then take half of what you put on your plait off ... start out that way then once your body has got smaller sizes so do you.. also make you up a good salad and keep Fruit and thing already made up so when you get the feeling your hungry It's already made up for you.WATER fill up a gallon and make sure at the ead of the day you drank it all..Fish Chicken Veggies, Eggs all good and key thing. it's ok to have a brownie once or twice in a month but when done know it's back to healthy eating add lite to all the things you love like dressings & sour cream and even cheese can now be gotten in 2% or 1% and please read every thing you eat and when you go out to MC.De know that you can only see the good things like oatmeal and raps and Salads and before you know you will love it no more heartburn was the one thing I loved and if you really want that Kitcat bar take in and eat one peace a day because then it's only 80 Cal...and not 320 Cal and when the day comes you can't take it and you want a burger and fries treat yourself to a kids meal once in a blue moon ,look up power foods and drinks and stay away from fatty drink like Coke ....And Know you are BEAUTIFUL and do this for your self hun because a man is not the key to your happiness you are because the way yo.. feel now is the same way you will feel after you find him and I hate to say it but you know the answer to your own ???? the right person has not come a long ...Keep your head up and Go Make it Happen 4 U ...I wish you Healthy living and don't sit around waiting for some man to tell you your sexy by the way .make sure you tell your self I'm sexy and I know it ..<3

2014-11-15 17:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0 0

I personally prefer to look at the person for who they are inside. Sounds corny but if you are beautiful inside, it comes out and shows regardless of your size. We can all stand to lose some weight but it should be done for health reasons to prolong your life and enjoy yourself. don't let it get you down, people can be shallow and hurtful but it's because they are going through some insecurities themselves. So shake what the good lord gave you and rejoice in the finer things in life like friends, family and love. God Bless.

2006-06-13 23:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by D baby 3 · 0 0

I love women with a little weight. I never go for thinny girls. I am sure that you are not lazy in sex. but look for a man that is a little overweighted and then you are not ashamed of your fat.

2006-06-13 23:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0 0

you go girl. lots of men like a woman with some meat. you are beautiful just the way you are, don't change for anyone.

2006-06-13 22:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by amanda 4 · 0 0

I like people like you!

Each one of us in our lives have a personality of our own and I give a **** to people who dont like me, but respect people who do like me and sure I cannot change for the world, rt?

Cheers!

2006-06-13 22:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by *darling*detective* 2 · 0 0

I cannot believe the lying sacks of **** that are answering this. I guarsntee all these guys would NOT date a fat woman. They are just trying to kiss your ***. Trust me, ALL guys are always talking smack and making fun of fat women. That's the stone cold truth.

2006-06-13 23:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

I'm not against it. its not about looks its about personality

2006-06-13 22:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by mattman 2 · 0 0

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