I have a screaming 4 year old girl!!!?

Question

My second child is 4 years old. She is a screamer!! No matter how little the problem is, she get so upset, and screams. My oldest wasnt never this bad. She is starting school in the fall in Sure Start (like Head Start), and I am affraid this will cause problems. She is so melodramatic and super-sensitive, and that I can handle, but the screaming is just toooo much!!!!

Any suggestions??

Answer 1

My daughter (4) screams and cries at everything....I have tried everything...We started time outs. She is put there when she talks back, screams and cries and doesn't play nice with her little sis....when she was in a preschool program they didn't have any problems with her...completely different child...kids know how to get a rise out of us...

Answer 2

My girlfriend just had a baby girl 2 years ago and she screams all the time. The first few months I thought we were going to all go crazy. We finally had her take her to a chiropractor and with the first adjustment she mellowed right out. Now everytime she gets nuts like that off to the chiropractor they go and she settles down. However here lately I think it's the start of the terrible twos. Yours is probably the terrible 4's. Try a chiropractor - they really are great at getting rid of unwanted pain. Children need adjustments also. Mine in 17 and has been in treatment since he was 2 days old. The best thing I've done for him...he's a straight A student and has very little pain.
I had a friend when her son was about 6 I think that they were in a store and he started screaming, because he wanted something, so she started screaming also. That was the last time he did that....I think she shocked him so much that it just wasn't any fun anymore.
I hope with some medical and sound advice this will end for you...nothing will keep you on edge like a miserable child who wants the world to know she's miserable! I wish you the best!

Answer 3

Give her a place where she can scream. When she starts screaming, take her to a place where she can scream (her room, a pillow) and say "When you are ready to stop screaming then you can come back with me." This is not a time out because you are not giving her a time limit (you controlling her). She returns when she's ready to control herself. It will take a few tries, but she should soon get the message.

When she is calm, empathize with her. "I can tell you were really (mad, upset, hurt, frustrated, angry...). What can we do about that?" She will learn to express herself better.

Say things like "You did that by yourself! You worked on that for a long time! Look how many colors you used on you painting! You must be proud." These are all great confidence and self-esteem builders that should help her.

Set limits and follow through. "No" means "No" the FIRST time you say it. Offer choices "Do you want to do that by yourself or do you want me to help? Should we have pasta or sandwiches for dinner?" Do not offer chances. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!

Answer 4

My little brother (before he even turned 18) taught me a valuable lesson about parenting, (which... at great expense to you... jk).

My daughter was throwing a temper tantrum... a loud, obnoxious, kicking, screaming temper tantrum. My brother laid down on the floor next to her, and did the SAME THING. It took like five seconds for everybody in the room to develop laughing fits. Like the kind you get when your gut hurts... Including her. I'd like to tell you she stopped, but... she didn't. I'll be honest, It took roughly two weeks before she did it again. But, it was two weeks of blissful silence. You HAVE GOT to hear what it's like... Try it. You'll like it.

Imitation works, periodically, although sometimes they get more angry, instead of finding it humorous. It really depends on presentation and timing.

My trick is to prevent the tantrums. It's been a few years, and mine's 14 now, I can prevent a 14 from having a tantrum, but the secret to a 4, is to remember who the parent is. Outsmart your child! Be firm, set limits... all that sort of thing. Maybe watch super nanny once or twice. It'll help.

Answer 5

I would suggest figuring out what she is trying get or solve with the behavior then communicating to her that screaming is not an effective way and you will not respond until she speak in a normal voice. I would encourage you to acknowledge her feeling or her purpose before you ignore her and to re-engage with her lovingly as soon as she stops the behavior.

Many children who have behavior problems at home are totally fine at school b/c of the structure etc.

Answer 6

I would try the last post. Imitate her and when she's done (I know she's only 4) try to talk to her to see what she is so upset about. Probably not getting her way with something and has found that her fits get results.

It's an opportunity to reason with her & teach her that no one gets what they want all the time. Teach her now. It will only get worse.

Answer 7

Ive got one like that, i know how you feel. i ignore her every time she screams i walk away.. it seems 2 be working. she's now at full time school ( UK)and will be 5 in 2wks .she also does;nt do it at school,shes an angel,so the teacher says ha ha. good luck

Answer 8

this is because ,due to some problem with your child.
1)It depends on the mentality of ur child ,that is if she is not interested in studies she may tell some reasons to miss the school.
2)she thinks you are not confident with her reason,and she screams to convey you that she had that problem and to miss the school.

Answer 9

my middle child was a screamer and i did what artman did. everytime she screams you scream. also have her ears checked out!!! if she keeps this up you might want to have yours lol just kidding.

Answer 10

Get some ear plugs and ignore her. She is doing it for attention, doesnt matter if its good or bad, just attention. You also might want to try calm child from hylands.