to be a virgin, have a boyfriend and not have sex? well, heres the thing...im scared to get a boyfriend,for the simple fact that i dont wanna have sex right now....i wanna wait until im married, then do it.....i dont wanna have sex with the dude and he just "bounces" and what not; although i know that can happen 2 people when theyre married also...i kinda feel that if i try to wait, and i get a bf, but i tell him my beliefs, hed dump me....im 18, and well, never had a "bf", and i wanna start dating BEFORE i hit my 20s.....any suggesstions on how to, when i get a bf, tell him what i want without...well....."running" him away?
2006-06-13 21:45:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you don't want to lose him..but consider how you will feel if you go against what you want for fear of "running him away". I think it is so admirable and fine of you to want to wait until marriage. If he isn't willing to understand your feelings..then you should get the idea that he isn't really into you all that much.
2006-06-13 21:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that 'taboo' is not your concern. You just don't wanna have sex now. That does not means you avoid dates. Those scary things can happen but still we take chances(we minimise the negatives).
Guys at this age are not matured enough to understand your beliefs, dates to them is 100% synonym to sex. Finding that sort of guy is tough, it's better you go for date, and indirectly check the guy's mentality. Whatever is his desire, you tell him straightforward that you need time, that you two should know each other very well before sex etc etc.Never get mentally attached with the guy early and never say that it's your belief and never crave for positive response. Maybe he will dump you, then obviously you will be lucky. Be mentally prepared before going for date and see within two years if you can take chances.
2006-06-14 05:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Rajiv G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is good question. If u want to have SEX til u get marry and if u gonna have boyfriend for the first time all u need is be honest to him and tell him that i can have SEX when i get marry and how bout u. If his feeling is the same as ur then keep him and stay with him til u get marry with this guy. Because ur too young tell the guy that u need love and honest ok. That way the guy might have feeling like that too. Hey good luck.
2006-06-14 04:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by historyman_of_sa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you start dating tell the guy up front about your beliefs and if he is right then he will respect your wishes if not then move on least that way they know ahead of time before it gits to far and dont think that you should settle your beliefs are good and if more people in this day and age were more like you there wouldn't be as many problems
2006-06-14 04:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by blondietaz2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a boyfriend doesn't mean you have to have "sex".
When you do meet a really special guy...there are lots of other things you can do and still maintain your virginity. None of those things needs to take place until you trust him NOT to violate your personal space.
I waited until I was 20...but dated all through high school
2006-06-14 04:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of guys out there who also want to wait till their married to have sex! Waiting till mariage is veery admirable!
Also there is a club called "the silver ring thing" where alot of poeple vow to stay virgins till marriage and to symbolise this they all ware a silver ring on their wedding finger! If your interested in meeting some of these people go to www.silverringthing.co.uk
2006-06-14 04:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by kimmycool2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible. The difficult thing would be to find a guy who respects your beliefs. Then again, even if you'd be turning down a lot of guys who don't fit this criterion, it would be easier to weed out the "Mr. Wrongs" from the "Mr. Maybes". Tell them your terms and see who's still there afterwards.
2006-06-14 04:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Trillian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you should have boyfriend at that kinda age. You should have graduated and have a job before you have a bf. Follow my instructions, you'll succeed, girl! And if you really love him just wait...I know you'll never lose him if he really loves you.
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2006-06-14 04:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by annaliesse_coolgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it IS possible to have a boyfriend and remain a virgin. you sound bright enough work it out. Just find the right guy!
2006-06-14 04:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to meet people at church or something. I am sure you can find a man there that is willing to wait.
2006-06-14 04:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋