I have been dating this girl for about two months now and I would like to take things to the next level with her. However, she has expressed to me that she is not looking for a relationship, but enjoys the time that we spend together. she also says that it is possible that we could become more committed in the future. But, I feel like the more time we spend together, the more attached I become. I enjoy the time that we spend together as well and would like for it to continue. We have a good time together and seem to have a good connection, but things aren't going that way. what should l do coz l don't wanna loose her and l love her so much.
2006-06-13 21:43:26 · 13 answers · asked by don-ricky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple...hold back alot more and soon enough the tables will turn.
You sound a bit too full on, its natural to feel so much for someone, so soon. Been there done that, but trust me, the moment you hold back and act a little more chilled (not mean to her, be the same good bloke), then she will come round and be in the position you are right now. If not....certainly, take it from there. Dont waste your life in the hope of. Its a shame and a waste of energy.
2006-06-13 21:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, what do you mean by "the next level?". Do you mean sex? Ultimately, you are becoming too into this girl too soon, which is not a particular problem, but what it does do is change the balance of power in her favour. You need to hang back and give her the pleasure of having to make a natural effort to contiually attract you, and chase you a little. Most attractive girls find it unattractive when a man is too into her. She will become casual about your feelings and the effort you make in the relationship. Think about it sensibly, it's only been 2 months. You seem to have established a good amount of comfort with her, so you know that she likes you, so you have nothing to be concerned about. Just become a bit of a challenge to her. This is not playing a game. This is the the general nature of human attraction. We become more attracted to those which we do not control. So become the one in the relationship with a busy and active life so that she is not so important to you. Still be nice to her, but don't be a puppy dog, at her beck and call. People like to have to do a little chasing of their partners. It helps to build attraction. Don't be afraid of losing her. Because you cannot control that. If it's going to happen, then it will. Just enjoy the time you spend together as it happens. Don't worry so much about the future. Anyway, good luck!
2006-06-13 21:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Zane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you as a friend. Only. She enjoys being with you because you make her feel desirable and good about herself but in keeping you on her emotional periphery she is/will make you feel bad about yourself.
You are giving her your power and you have got to get it back
You can not change how she feels. The more you demonstrate how you feel the less likely she is to feel any different.
The only possibility of making her interested is by withdrawing. Make her think that she has lost your interest. I.e. stop calling, tell her about other women you fancy and always end the conversations and time you spend together first. The best bet is to get another girlfriend who is more attractive / successful than her.
However, be careful because if you are nothing but an ego boost to her she may lose interest as soon as she wins your attention back.
In which case move on
2006-06-13 22:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by del-d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not sure what she wants. Women are like that, men too.
I wasted 7 years on my last one.
She still doesn't know.
Give her time, don't screw up by going out on her with another girl.This will push her away and she will think you are not serious about her. Be thankful she still likes you enough to hang out with you.
Good luck, hope it works out for you.
2006-06-13 21:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by alysonhell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dosent want the next level, She is not wanting a relationship at this time,Be friends or move on.
2006-06-13 21:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she likes the relationship both ways??? Maybe give her some space, then see how it goes. It might be worth a try.
2006-06-13 21:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go wit da truth tell her how u feel she'll realise she feels the same or itl be too much for her in which case mayb u shud stop seein her
2006-06-13 22:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will go in to a commited relationship with you! So sound so sweet! X
2006-06-13 23:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by kimmycool2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth is she says she wants to take it slow then give her time she will come around if every thing is as good as you say it is just have patience
2006-06-13 21:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by blondietaz2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heart to heart you need to talk to her. express your feeling and ask what she expects from that relationship. then you make your decision.
2006-06-13 21:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by azzrie007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋