He stays at my mother-in-law during work and she is great with him. I have no complaints in this area.
2006-06-13 21:17:03 · 12 answers · asked by MNT 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Society sets mothers up to feel guilty. We are made to feel that if you have children you give up the right to your own identity. This harkens back to the "old days" when women did not work outside of the home. Amazingly, with all the women's lib, equal treatment-equal pay, we are still at a point where we feel guilty for having the desire to work and leave our children.
I think your children (and mine because I am in the same boat) will ultimately gain from your working. If you are fulfilled as a woman and a worker, you are more likely to be a successful parent. The time you do spend with your children will be more quality time.
Don't feel guilty! You are doing what is best for you, thereby doing what is best for your children.
Keep up the good work! :)
2006-06-14 03:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by bradymccormick 3 · 7⤊ 4⤋
Here's a thought - my Mom always had a full-time job. Her independence and success has always been an inspiration to me. I have grown up with a strong sense of independence, a belief in my own capabilities and an appreciation for the reality of earned money and the pride that brings. Whatever plans were made for my care, I always knew I was loved and well-cared for. My Mom was interesting and dynamic and I always looked forward to the great time we'd spend together when she got home in the evening. (Also, ask yourself, does your husband feel guilty about going to work??.)
2006-06-14 04:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably the maternal instinct that naturally makes you feel the need to be with him. You did carry him around for 9 months before any of your family members got to know him, so of course you still feel that attachment to him. Two thumbs up to you, you are setting a good role model for your child by working, it shows responsibility. But...yes it is hard to separate from the little guy and you shouldn't feel guilty...you are doing what you gotta do! RIGHT?!
2006-06-14 04:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by dadizgirlz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have very recently given birth, you are extreamly attached to your son, regardless of how safe you know his guardian is. To be able to give life, is a fantastic gift, and as a mother, you instintively you feel perhaps disconnected from your son and hence forth guilty. The more you continue going to work, getting used to the distance, the more you should be able to relax more..and not feel so guilty, knowing he is being cared for and is safe.
2006-06-14 04:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by seanied2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure all mothers who work outside the home feel the same way that you do.
Being a mother goes hand in hand with guilt. WE always feels something when it comes to our children.
Be happy that you have HELP with your son.
Be happy that your MOTHER-IN-LAW helps you in this way.
2006-06-14 04:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's being well cared for, forget the guilt. I worked thru raising 3 kids and they are all happy and well adjusted. Just give him the best you can when you are with him. You can only do so much.The best advice my mother ever gave me was
Don't waste any time on guilt".
2006-06-14 04:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by casey54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because naturally you miss you child and they are so beautiful at 8 months. You will be alright. Every working mom goes through that.
2006-06-14 11:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are a wonderful mother and have a strong maternal bond with your child. And because society still make us feel guity for leaving our children and returning to work.
Don't feel guilty, it is good for your child to learn independance away from you. Ask your MIL to take him to mother and toddler groups so that he can mix with other children and develop his social skills.
I think it's better for them to learn good social skills from an early age, so that they aren't shy or bullied later in life and they have the confidence to make friends.
2006-06-14 04:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because ure a great mother and dnt want to leave him but u no u have to
2006-06-14 04:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never ever get over that feeling...it might get better. but i miss my boys when i work i work evenings and leave mine with daddy at home but i still feel bad....i feel they want me to stay especially when they look at me when i am going and they say dont go mummy.....honestly its worse when they are b\bies as they grow older it WILL get easier!!!
2006-06-14 04:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋