How do you stop a 6 yr old boy from crying and whining over just about anything and to stop him from tailtelling everytime his 10 yr old brother doesnt do something his way
2006-06-13 20:51:18 · 15 answers · asked by this_panther_purrs28 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You just have to deal with it, lets hope he grows out of it.
2006-06-13 20:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Federico 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calling him names or telling him that he is a "sissy" won't help.
When my 6 yr old whines I tell him "I will not listen to you when you whine. If you have something you want to tell me, talk in a nice voice."
When he tattles, I duiscuss ways that he could effectively deal with the situation, and remind him that crying won't help. If it IS serious, I intervene.
In many (not all, by any means) situations I remind his older cousin that just because he's older doesn't mean he alsways gets to make the rules. Older kids tend to try to control the everything and force littler ones to do it their way. They can be very manipulative while still SEEMING reasonable.
Ten IS quite a bit older than six, and the both children can compromise about half the time, and do it the six year old's way about a quarter of the time, and do it the older one's way for the remaining time. Also the ten year old should not have to care for the six year old. Ten is too young to be a caretaker.
I also talk with my son about what is reasonable to tell on people for. Is he about to hurt someone else or himself? Is he about to wreck or ruin something important? Is he doing something dangerous? IS someone going to get hurt by this? If not, you don't need to tell.
They grow out of it, but it lasts much longer if they feel insecure or unloved. As parents it is our job to TEACH them how to get along with others and behave appropriately, not just expect them to know then gat mad and call them names or say cruel things to them when they don't.
2006-06-15 01:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by shrubs_like_pretzles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't tell him he is sissy or belittle him in any way. His behaviour sounds normal for a 6 year old. I know my daughter's kindergarten teacher has been working with the class on knowing what is tattling and what is okay to tell to an adult. When he tattles just tell him that you can't interfere and that he and his brohter can work it out on their own. Unless something physical is going on, tell him he can tell if his brother hits him, but otherwise you won't listen to the tattling. As far as the whining, ignore it. When he whines for something just tell him, "My ears don't understand whining. Maybe I can help you out when you can ask in your big boy voice." Good Luck.
2006-06-14 06:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No joke this worked on my six year old last year!!!! I picked him up from school one day and told him I had been to the doctor. I told him the doctor fixed my ears so I couldn't hear his whining anymore. When he tried to whine I ignored him. He would get louder and I would say, "are you talking to me? I'll listen when you talk to me like a person." Now he comes in and says, "mom, can I talk to you?" A counselor suggested it, I was skeptical...but I am here to tell you.... my now 7 yr old does not whine. (I did hear him tell his brother he was glad dad didn't get his ears fixed!) Good luck!
2006-06-19 00:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by bebeshanibabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to stop referring to him as a sissy. You sound like a 6 year old yourself.
2006-06-14 07:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop the conversation " WE DO NOT WHINE HERE" Be consistant everytime they begin to whine remind them we dont and we wont. Tell them when they can ask something without sounding like a baby then you will listen till then ...We just dont do that.
2006-06-14 03:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by Turtle Isle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these aren't sissy ways, he's 6!! this is what six year olds do. he'll grow out of it. in the mean time don't risk your future relationship with him or worse risk giving him a complex by trying to make him a "real man". it won't bring any good.
2006-06-14 03:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just part of being a six year old. I have a six year old myself and he whines about everything....lol I just try to discipline him when he does this. I take away his tv or toys. Thats about all you can do to try to break them from it.
2006-06-14 03:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my kids. my boys are 7 and 6 and i have a little girl that's almost 2. every time one of them tattles they get timeout...I'm tired of it. its summer so its such an everyday thing and it was driving me crazy. i also do timeout for fighting and i make them sit and hold hands in the timeout!! it has actually been working!!
2006-06-14 04:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by hootsie321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have the same situation. we simply say "if you want to whine, do it in your room", in a stern voice.
for genuine situations we do try to resolve the problem and explain that he doesnt need to cry to get something.
2006-06-14 06:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boot camp ask him to give me 500 suicides 1000 push ups and then ask him to run 1 mile then 500 more push ups
2006-06-17 10:36:09 · answer #11 · answered by hockey pro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋