How 2 make my mother happy?

Question

My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.We r thinking of seperating. my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.

Answer 1

Talk to your mother,Fill her loneliness someway.Visit some place of her choice with her.Try to make your wife understand your feelings for your mom.If she understands this,bring her back to your life.A mother is happy when her Children are happy.Otherwise.after divorce,Think of marrying again,this time with your mother's choice.She will be happy to see your off springs.She will be busy with small kids of yours,It would make her extremely happy.Visit some religious place with her,where she can get some mental peace.You can also see family movies with her.She will be relaxed.bring some surprise gifts for her.
It is really your duty to make her happy.You are really a nice son who is so caring for his mother.if you were of my place,i would like to visit your mom,and share some laughter with her.
best of Luck.Your mother is lucky to have a son like you!God bless you!

Answer 2

The upset feelings are normal. If she didn't mind, she'd be awfully cold and detached. Besides, things could still smooth out for you.

I can tell you, what blesses a Mom more than anything is to feel her life has not been for nothing. That things she taught you will remain long after she's gone, and assurance that what she was passionate about was really worthwhile.
You can do this with a card, or a conversation, sure. But to really mean anything, you have to live like you got her messages. How you handle stress, the value you put on your relationships, the way you parent your kids--that's how you make her proud.

Answer 3

ya mother has to accept you as man with his own reponsiblity, decisions, and life. She could laugh at you or advice you, but should not judge and grudge. You know best if the marriage is not working where there is no longer "loving" just "living". If there is not relational direction of growth thru compatiblity, respect, communication, and some existing passion, then you know there is hope and could be accomplish with dedication and hardwork TOGETHER. For your mother, express your love, thanks, and respect for her, but do not take your sensual side of honoring her so strong that it reroutes ya destiny that you make. You can not live a life someone wants for you even though you know it would please them greatly. I know you wanna do well by ya mother and she raised you well...but you know how to show love and do not to look for the answer from her when she judges or critiques ya decisions. Personally, if ya wife trippin' then drop her and date some while go chill more wit moms until you find an awesome chic, lol Take it easy buddy!

Answer 4

I smell a strong odor of emotional incest here. I a reading between the lines of your question and what I venture to guess is that you feel a need to take on a level of parenting since your father passed away. You feel you need to step in and take care of your mother. Matthew Chapter 19:5 states "a man should leave his mother and flock to his wife." However, when I mention emotional incest here, what I mean is not something dirty or sexual. You mother is emotionally draining to you right now. And, because of it, your marriage is suffering or worse, may end. Your mother is in old age, you are young, fresh and vital. I am not implying that you abandon your mother all together, but you do need to go and get your wife back. You need to read the book "Toxic Parents." Women who have boys have a hard time letting those boys go. This is discussed in detail in this book. My MIL has two sons and she is very nosy and involved in our lives. However, I have a MA in Clinical Psychology and have developed strategies to deal with her in my terms and my own way. I would encourage you to discuss this with your wife,and inform her that you are married to her and not your mother. Your mother is manipulating you, and she manipulated you to the point that you are now without your wife. It is not your responsibility to make your mother happy. It is not healthy for your mother to be emotionally dependent on you. Yes, she raised you well, and sacrificed for you, but isn't that what a good mother is supposed to do. You see, when you are born you are born into "entitlement." You are entitled to be taken care of, to be raised with morals and to be loved. She did her job. Now, she must cut that invisible umbilical cord, and let her son be a man. Your entire focus right now should be to get your wife back, and begin to develop boundaries with your mother. I am not implying that you cut her off, but break the cycle of emotional dependence and allow her an opportunity to find her own happiness. NOW! GO GET YOUR WIFE!!!!!!!! DONT LET HER SLIP AWAY!!! PLEASE!!!!

Answer 5

Your mom has done so many sacrifices for you, and now its your turn.Tell your wife that you are not leaving your mom and going anywhere, if she insists tell her that you can leave her but not your mom.You mom will be happy seeing this and will herself advice you to stay with your wife and sometimes come to meet her. In this awy both will be happy.
Your mom will never want to spoil your married life.

Answer 6

I should say congratulate your mother due to her trying works
and hard lives.You should give she positive energy and avoid
that she fall in sadness.Training of two boys who became
engineer and doctor is not little action.I am engineer and know
how much effort and study is required for success in this
branch of knowledge.

Answer 7

you did not say why the wife left..... but that is of little concern I guess in all this, or is it ?? well, if your mother is up in age, you do need to help her if you can..... make her life as comfortable as you can afford to do...... she is your mother !! and maybe the brother can help too..... but if you and your wife can NOT make the marriage work then there is nothing you can do to make your mom happy on that score....... just do what your heart tells you to do....... if you can work to make your marriage work again than do so............. God bless

Answer 8

Well for one. You have to separate your mom from your marriage. Your mom has nothing to do with your marriage. They are two totally different issues. Just sympathize with her feelings, acknowledge them, but don't take her feelings personally. You could give her some flowers or something.

Answer 9

your mom is very great.you have to be much dedicatefull for her.in all times.at the same time you are having a responsibility to save your wife also.make them to understand each other.dont ignore them.both are very important persons in your life.try to satisfy both of them.do the things what she is expecting.if she want to go out ,then ,take her.if she asks anything dont refuse it.TIME HAS TO CHANGE EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE.GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

not to be ugly, but if ur wife loved u she wouldn't have left u in a time like that. look in ur heart and figure out what u want to do.
i don't think's is fair for a woman to make u choose b/t her and ur mom that's not nice.
i know i may sound silly, but take care of ur mom. women come and go.
good luck