Me and my bf want to move in. Im in college and he want s me to trasnfer schools to be closer to him. I have a little problem with that b/c i really got to know ppl there and it would be hard cuz i would miss them but on the other hand i love my bf and want to be with him. But the other thing is after the school year is over he wants to move to another state and me to go with him. Again i have a prob. cuz i would make friends and not want to leave them along with my family. I love him more than anything but i dont know what to do about it should i move now or wiat a year and make just one move instead of 2 and be without him for a year. Or move now then again in a year?? Some one help me please??
2006-06-13 19:04:26 · 9 answers · asked by Xenia J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont do anything till there's a ring on your finger baby. Your boyfriend is just that, a boy-friend. He may hook up with some cheerleader in six months for all you know. No one looks out for you but YOU. Finish school where you're at right now, once you have your degree, then you can think about moving. But you think about what's good for you first.
That's the problem you women have, you put your man first, thinking, "he wouldnt ask me to move there if it wasnt a good idea." Wrong! He's not thinking about what's good for you, he's thinking about what's good for him! He wants you there to take care of his needs, sexually, monetarily and general housekeeping. He could give a rat's azz about your degree, your friends or your family. Ask yourself, would you make him move? Didnt think so...
2006-06-13 19:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving isn't so bad. Never unpack everything that you take with you until you know in your heart that you are "HOME"! The thing about moving around is making new friends. I have lived alot and would still like to go work on the road for a while just for a new flavor in life. Of course my husband would be doing this with me. But we always have a home to come back to. These are things that you should never compromise on. Good Luck and Have some safe and wonderful trips!
2006-06-14 02:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Guys wants more time with you & your presence in same campus as his, but a cost is attached to it which you have to pay. You tell him that you care a lot for him and you love him a lot but do not want to change the school, coz its means a lot for you to be in that school. You both collectively resolve the matter. You must have your say in the matter. Dear once you will sacrifice your self you will do it always or several times. Dont do things which you dont like. Your thoughts are your identity. If you waver you will harm your own self. Your boyfriend is important but you too are important for yourself. Creat possibility for a win win situation for You and your boyfriend. You both love each other. If the bond is strong the solution will come fast & there will be no compromises & sacrifices.
2006-06-14 02:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by ddivvi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in quite a difficult situation. Why do you have to do all the moving? Why not speak to your boyfriend about how you're feeling and explain to him how difficult this is for you. Maybe the both of you should wait a while before moving around until you both feel comfortable moving. Seems like it to me that you have to sacrifice a lot and he doesn't.
2006-06-14 02:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is tough...I'd stay put.It seems you're putting too much at stake and uprooting too much just for a boyfriend.Sure you may love him now...but what if that changes?Why isn't he giving alittle here?Fair is fair right?If he can't understand your feelings and doesn't want to listen:dump him.Don't go making a choice you'll regret in the longrun,it's your life...take care of you!
2006-06-14 02:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heading says it all. Dont do anything WITH him. Think and do for yourself. Stay put and complete your studies!
2006-06-14 02:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it has to be fair it cant be all about him and if hes this selfish he should be all by himself if thats all he cares about take this question in "would he do it for you?"
2006-06-14 02:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU LOVE HIM MOST THEN RUN AWAY IF YOR ARE OF >18
2006-06-14 02:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by harry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, why does everything have to revolve about him? are you that insecure? dump him and finish school.....
grow up
2006-06-14 02:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋