2006-06-13 18:38:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Everyone has left pretty good advice so far. I know this could be hard...you want to be a cool dad but you are concerned about your daughter. Do whatever it takes to make her stop. Being cool doesn't do anything, I know that from personal experience. Do something and do it now. Make your point known. My parents did stuff I hated as a kid, but when I finally grew up, I realized their wisdom and how their strictness on such things made me who I am today. Be strong man, and good luck! I wish the best for you in this tough situation!
2006-06-13 18:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well...Dad...I think that the first thing I would suggest is prayer. Then the next step is, if your not into a Bible believing Church, you should locate one. (and attend!)Kids that have friends with a firm foundation in Jesus Christ, can sometimes help their new friend to see that there is something better to life than getting "high". Another "alternative" would be to take her to the local hospital & ask the Dr. to tell her about all the kids that "did not do so well" when they were "getting high"....(or you can also try the local Police...though you do not have to explain to them Y you want to know the dangers of the drug..just the "outcome") But if I were you I would give serious concideration to the first portion of this answer...for yourself as well as your daughter. Many a child has been lost to the evils of this world's drug call!! May the Lord watch over you & guide you in your decisions!
2006-06-13 18:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by maranatha132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, tell her that you love her. Tell how how much you love her and how concerned you are. Then, see if she'll open up. Ask her why she feels the need to use drugs. Dont just bash her with thoughts and opinions. Believe me, Im 19, and a couple of years ago, i was in trouble with that stuff. My parents made me feel like crap all the time, and didnt care why or if I was hurting, so I used more. If youve tried all that, use more drastic meassures. Have a drug counselor or probation officer talk to her. She may be mad at you but shell get over it. Let her know youre serious and your not going to let her kill herself. Shell thank you for the harshness years from now, or even sooner.
2006-06-13 18:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by totally unsure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out "on a weekly date" show her how to have fun that promotes well being. It doesn't have to be expensive. It can be a walk in the park one evening, or flying a kite. Teach her how to have fun and how to like herself. Model for her the respect she should expect from other males around her. Learn to listen to her and how to talk to her. Make her respect you enough not to want to disappoint you, through love. It will be difficult and it will take time. (Counseling helps too - consider it also if that is a possibility. ) Father's Day is coming up on Sunday - ask her if she will pick a day/evening next week to spend a few hours with you. Tell her about who you are as a person not just a dad. Let her see you like things and take an interest in some things she likes. Learn how to laugh with her.
2006-06-13 18:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to save her life? Is doing so more important than how she may feel about you right now by doing something about it? Intervention and sending her to rehabilitation in my opinion is the best way. Although with an intervention, rehab is voluntary, and she has to want to stop using, otherwise I say figure out how to get law enforcement involved so the courts will force her to go into rehab or face possible time in jail. Sorry, but tough love, especially when it comes to drugs is a necessity as a parent sometimes.
2006-06-13 18:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by jimmyweda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her help...You will need to find a way that works for you to stop using your drug of choice. It doesn't matter if that drug is alcohol, marijuana, opiates, food, gambling, relationships or sex, you will need both professional and lay support.
Many people begin by consulting their family physician and/or an addictions counselor. This is a good first step because it is important to address physical and emotional conditions related to substance abuse.
You may also choose to join a recovery group and get help from others who are fighting addiction. They will provide free support 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Nearly every addiction has a 12-Step program.
NA (Narcotics Anonymous) for drug addiction Most of the 12-Step programs that deal with abstinence also have a program counterpart for "friends and family" of the addicted person. Thus, Al-Anon is for friends and family of alcoholics, Nar-Anon for friends and family of drug users, O-Anon for friends and family of overeaters, Gam-Anon for friends and family of gamblers, and so forth.
As you explore the world of recovery, feelings that may have become frozen through use of addictive substances will begin to thaw. Slowly, you will learn about feelings and how to identify them. You will begin to own your emotions and choose which feelings you wish to turn into actions. CODA and Al-Anon are wonderful 12-Step programs in this area.
How 12-Step Programs Work
Twelve-step programs believe that addiction is progressive, potentially fatal and that it has a threefold basis — physical, emotional and spiritual. Recovery involves healing all three areas. Although the disease cannot be cured, the alcoholic or addict can lead a happy, productive life by abstaining from the addictive substance one day at a time.
If you join a 12-Step program, you will learn to give and receive help. Initially, a "sponsor" will act as mentor and teach the basics of the program and be there for you when you're tempted to break your abstinence. Later, you will perform the same function for someone else.
Group support is also important. Meetings are available in most areas during the day and evening, seven days a week. In addition, recovery meetings can be found on the Internet every hour of every day. Simply type the name of your group — AA, NA, Alanon, Naranon — into a search engine and you can easily locate an online meeting.take her to the er...
2006-06-13 18:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to rehab NOW before you lose her. Put her butt in the car drive her there yourself. She will hate you for about 10 days. She will get over it. DO NOT LET HER OUT TILL SHE IS FULLY RECOVERED. Even if it takes a year...money well spent!!!
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!!
2006-06-14 09:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by jacdog61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the hospital and get her stomach pumped. Once she goes to the hospital she will be scared senseless and won't do it again. After she is well give her a lecture on drugs and threaten to take her to bootcamp if she don't straighten herself out.
2006-06-13 18:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should try to talk to her and tell her the consquences of drugs before she gets into trouble with the law or just drop dead some where.i know this is tough but show her that u have her welfare at heart , cos this age range is where they are changing.
2006-06-13 18:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by gum_chewing4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the drugs should be the least of your concern. if what u'r saying is true then just imagine what the guys are doing to your daughter when she's high. they could be performing orgies or anal sex on her who knows? i think that you should be a man and reprimand your daughter. control her whatever it takes. im a guy and i know what girls high on ecstacy are capable of doing. theyre like sex goddesses. have a nice day
2006-06-13 18:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋