how can i quit drinkin?

Question

I have Borderline personality disorder and im takin pills. substance abuse is one of the symptoms of this disorder..i know drinkin alcohol makes me feel depressed, but i still do it b/c I feel good when i drink. i go to university and im married..drinking alcohol is causing me problem at school, since sometimes i drink at night without considerin what i have to do the day after? my marriage is in danger to b/c i start fightin with m husband and keep tellin him that i'm leaving him!!! could some one help and tell me how i can get over this habit considerin that i'm sufferin from depression..
thank you
by the way, i always feel im in prison and i feel like a free bird when i drink!!!!!!111

Answer 1

Well, you're not going to like this at all... but this is what my psych book has to say on the matter of borderline personlaity disorders... I don't have an exact quote because I sold the book a few years back but... "Symptoms generally improve if the patient survives into their 30's" I have BPD too... Good to know that we have a 20% suicide rate, more than double that of major depressive disorder... You may be an alcoholic on top of being borderline with substance problems...

On a better note, there is one form of therapy that has shown success in some borderline patients... yes, I said ONE, because all normal types of therapy have shown virtually 0 success... it's called dielectic behavioral therapy, find someone trained specifically in that treatment though, a lot of 'general' psychiatrists know about it but not enough to make it really beneficial...

I tell you with sincere honesty, it is the only chance you have besides waiting it out and hope the symptoms improve into your 30's and 40's... drugs (you know, actual perscriptions) have virtually no success in the long term (more than 1 year) ...

Answer 2

It isn't easy but worth it if you're dual diagnosis. (I'm not saying whether you are or aren't an alcoholic). Many of the medications out there intensify the effects of alcohol. Ever see the movie Blind Date? Anyhow, my suggestions would be: 1) keep taking your pills and seeing whomever prescribes them 2) pick up a copy of Alcoholics Anonymous (the big book), call the hotline or visit the website. It took a lot of courage putting your concern out there. People with mental health issues can stay sober, too. I've done it for over two years. When you get really squirrely, sit on your hands (literally) and pray (even if you aren't religious and don't believe a word of it). Just ask for help out loud. Feelings pass. Life without alcohol is better than I ever imagined. Best of luck.

Answer 3

now listen, alkochol is not the only thing that can make u feel free. So search for some activities that u'd enjoy as much as drinking. good results will make u high, teh enthusiasm will get u our of teh depressed mood. try yoga, go horse ridding, mountain climbing, sky surfing, antything that u feel woudl be interesting. And btw, adrenalin works much better that just alkochol or somekind of drugs. it's way much more fun as well: it's harmless, fun, interesting, exciting.!
if u feel u cannot handle it all alone, consult a doctor, a friend, a psychologist. there's surely a way to get out of this.
do not be shy to ask for help!

Answer 4

Does he have a couple of too many than youd decide on or... Is he an alcoholic? If so have you ever attempted a legit intervention? I have a well pal whos husband is a functioning alcoholic and shes attempted the whole lot however that adding leaving with the youngsters (of path she DID return finally) - not anything has labored. If hes simply having a couple of greater than he will have to on a Friday night time simply speak to him. If he loves you it will have to be ample

Answer 5

Alcoholics Anonymous

Answer 6

I feel like the questions you ask are coming out of my mouth...we could be the same person even...Do you happen to have an old flame you still love? I would love to chat with you...I think we could be a good supposrt system for each other...I knoiw this is not the answer you are looking for, but I swear, you life is damn near like mine...

Answer 7

Have you ever wondered about the reason of our existence? Have you ever wondered why we die, and where we go after death? What will happen to us in the end? Have you ever asked yourself why God made the earth and all that is in it under man’s dominion? Why were the night and the day, and the sun and the moon created? What are we supposed to do during our lifetime? Were we created just to eat, drink, and enjoy ourselves before we die? As one poet put it:
“I do not know whence I have come.
I saw my feet walking on the road.
As they please I go and stop.
What am I doing here?
How did the road find me?
I do not know! I do not know! I do not know! ”

God has emphasized in many verses of the Qur’an that He did not create us without purpose. He said: “What! Do you think that I created you simply in jest? And that you would not be returned to Me?” (23:115) He also said: “What! Does man think that he will be left to roam at his will?” (75:36) In addition, He said: “Do people think that they will be left to say: “We believe,” and they will not be held accountable?” (29:2)
Indeed, God Has created human beings for a purpose and with a purpose: TO WORSHIP HIM ALONE (Monotheism). He said: “I have not created the Jinn and humankind except only to worship Me. I don't require provision or feeding from them. Surely Allah is the All-provider, the Possessor of all strength, the Firm.” (51:56-58) In fact, all prophets told their people to worship God alone (Monotheism) and shun worshipping His creation (Paganism). God said: “I assuredly sent among every people a messenger with the command: Worship Allah and avoid worshipping false gods.” (16:36)
Prophet Abraham, for example, believed in One God, who had no partner. Anyone who holds a different understanding of God than this has contradicted the religion of Abraham and follows falsehood. God says in the Qur’an: “Those who reject the religion of Abraham make fools of themselves.” (2:130)
Prophet Jesus was reported in the Gospels to have said: “It is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God and serve Him only’.” (Luke 4:8)
Prophet Jacob also said (in the Qur'an) to his people: “Indeed, those which you worship besides Allah are only names that you and your forefathers have established, for which Allah has sent down no authority. The command belongs only to Allah. He has commanded that you worship none but Him. That is the right religion, but most people do not understand.” (12:40)
Read more about the TRUE BELIEVE which supported by the Miracle Holy Quran :
http://www.islam-guide.com/islam-guide.pdf

http://www.harunyahya.com

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Real happiness and peace can be ONLY found in submitting to the commands of the Creator and the Sustainer of this world. God has said in the Qur’an: (Truly, in remembering God do hearts find rest.)
(Qur’an, 13:28)

On the other hand, the one who turns away from the Qur’an will have a life of hardship in this world. God has said:
(But whoever turns away from the Qur’an, he will have a hard life, and We will raise him up blind on the Day of Judgment.) (Qur’an, 20:124)
This may explain why some people commit suicide while they enjoy the material comfort money can buy. For example, look at Cat Stevens (now Yusuf Islam), formerly a famous pop singer who used to earn sometimes more than $150,000 a night. After he converted to Islam, he found true happiness and peace, which he had not found in material success.
To read the stories of people who have converted to Islam, please visit

http://www.islam-guide.com/stories

At this web page, you can read the thoughts and feelings of these people, who are from different countries and have different backgrounds and levels of education.
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Answer 8

If you truly want to stop quitting for yourself. Then i suggest checking into a Rehab, finding a sponsor at AA meeting and prayer to a higher power...

Answer 9

it sounds like u have a problem...you may need to go somewhere to dry out. the drinking is fun but in the end it will cause physical and mental problems.

Answer 10

Talk to your doctor about this, but you have already taken a big step--admitting a problem.
Try AA
www.alcoholics-anonymous.org
It has helped a lot of people.
Good luck!!