how do u turn-up your sex life with new tricks or new toys orwhat someone outthere help me?

Answer 1

There are many ways to to add some spice to your love life. The first and most important step is to WANT to. You are there.

0. Safety and safe words: use of some of these things can be dangerous, illegal, and may lead to uncomfortable emotions. Make sure of your surroundings, have a pair of surgical scissors (safety tip like EMTs use to cut dressing), extra keys, fire extinguisher, water, hande.

Use safe words: Green = more please, Yellow= I am not sure I like that, switch to something else or slow down, RED = stop right now. No recriminations, no blame, just stop.

1. Light bondage. Silk scarves & neckties are good and safe starts. You can also go to pet supply stores for larger dog collars. The point is someone in the duo cannot see or move around much while the other is in control. Try it both ways. You might find he likes being tied up as much or more than she does.

2. While in bondage, try ice cubes and candle wax. White wax candles burn coolest. Drip from high up. Spread a spare shower curtain or drop cloth under the person before you start this. Follow the wax with ice. Senses will get very confused. Work slowly toward tender areas.

3. Shaving - ask him to shave your legs and other places. If you have been shaving bare, you may consider growing it back for awhile. Hair does trap scent and can add to the experience. Shave him down there.

4. Toys - most boys love toys. If you can show him that he can make you climax two times in a row, he may be encouraged to make it twenty. Be aware that in some states such toys are illegal to be sold for sexual purposes even to married couples (Texas is such a state). Wall powered, ball-head vibrators are nice for both backrubs and front rubs, right?

A special toy is the TENS unit. Transcutaneous Electroneural Stimulation. It sends small electrical pulses to external muscle groups. Many folks have had them used on them in physical therapy and at a chiropractor's office. Not so strangely, these can be used to induce hours' long climaxes in ladies. Do not use TENS above the waist or on people with pace-makers.

5. Play acting - after perhaps a visit to a beauty salon, a change of hair style for the lady, and a corresponding shopping for clothes by the gentleman, they meet "by accident" in a bar or restaurant. They strike up a conversation. Try to tell each other things that they have never said before: stories from their early lives apart. They order dinner, and after perhaps a few dances, they go to a motel. NOT BACK HOME. Go to somewhere like you were new.

6. Commit to making love, at least to her climax, at least once a day. No excuses. Try this for two weeks. See if you can do it. Reward yourself lavishly if you can.

7. Food in bed. Not my favorite but some find whipcream and chocolate sauce fun.

8. Camera - take pictures, pose each other and take very close up and intimate pictures, try for art not Penthouse. See the beauty in them, in you. Set the camera to catch you together.

9. Turn off the TV. Nothing on the tube is as important or as fun as making love. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. If it is a good show it will be rerun or put out on DVD. If it is a sports event, have someone tape it.

10. Spanking is sometimes fun. I would suggest doing this lightly and beware. Do not degrade the other person. Watch out how far play acting goes. Spanking can be open-handed, paint stirring sticks, bamboo canes, horse hair whisks...and more. More people enjoy this than you might imagine. Keep it on the buttocks and thighs. Watch out for bruises the next day. If your partner takes blood-thinning meds (Warfarin or even lots of aspirin) this can be suddenly look like abuse.

11. Videos - I would suggest videos directed by Candida Royale. She was an actress and now puts out a line of videos that women can watch that are frankly the best out there. You will probably have to buy these, few stores have them for rent.

Probably more than you want to know. Best of luck. And a hug for wanting to do more. You are aces.

Answer 2

First of all, turning up your sex life is not a trick. Toys are ok if that is what interests you. Remember that unless your having sex with only yourself that you are 50%, so it might be that the other 50% of the team be let in on what you like. If I were you, find a mutual interest, browse together, explore one anothers ideas, laugh at the jokes you make, comment on the obscure things people are into and when you make eye contact with your significant other when browsing a particular topic and the silence is deafening and there is no movement you have found a common interest that could be the beginning of a whole new sex life! Try it.

Answer 3

Toys and good clean, kinky fun don't fix a bad relationship, but if everything is good to go on an emotional level, I can highly reccomend about 60+ feet of soft nylon or silk rope cut into 12-15ft lengths, and a crash-course in safe bondage techniques. Manacles, ball-gags, whips, and harnesses are optional.

Have fun!

Answer 4

start by watching a porn movie or get a playboy mag or something of the sort and do it together and talk about it. If you're to embarrased, you shouldn't be having sex.

Answer 5

My answer to that question is both! Just make sure your partner is as adventurous as you are before breaking out the really kinky stuff.

Answer 6

well, let me fill you in on a few things
go to castle realm and find out a few things.....or check out a few fetish clothing sites.......
has worked wonders with my relationship.....
all i can say is WOW
c0ckrings are something to make ya smile

Answer 7

give it all a try, or you will never know what you like

Answer 8

Your're just ******* the wrong person then.

Answer 9

FIND A BETTER PARTNER