i am dating a guy who has had many ex girlfriends, he is open to telling me about his past, but i am judgemental and i cannot fully accept him for that reason. what do you think? pls voice your opinions. thank you.
2006-06-13 17:57:29 · 8 answers · asked by crysthy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would rather date an experienced boyfriend with a lot of notches than see a total nerd who needs instructions on how to kiss, fondle, etc.
When he starts talking about his ex-girlfriends designed to make you jealous, inadequate and competitive, tell him no, that you feel uncomfortable and that you would prefer that he keeps his mouth shut about what his ex did before.
Ask him to come to you clean.
2006-06-13 18:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I try not to date anyone who has had multiple girlfriends, It's been my experience that these girlfriends may show up again, the less the better. If he is open to telling you these things because you ask him that is fine but if he is rambling on about these girls maybe he's not completely over one or more of them. Why do you think guys like virgins so much? nothing to be compared to, you don't feel like you're being judged so much. If a woman were to come out and say that she has had many partners she would be considers a tramp.. or worse, why should it be any different for our men? Having many relationship may also mean that he's not into commitment.
2006-06-14 01:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by victorian_stage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why he has a lot of past girlfriends. It can be argued that it is a problem with the women, but can that many of them be so screwed up? Find out why he broke up with each of them. Look for patterns. Rest assured that whatever reasons keep popping up will be why you all will break up by Thanksgiving. So, in other words, listen to your gut. No matter what he tells you, the past girlfriends will be a problem for you in whatever relationship you all may have.
2006-06-14 01:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Amazed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i depends on the situation. well if he cheated on a girl then i would have to say no cause he may cheat on me. Maybe just cause he had alot of girls in the past becuase they were cheatin or not treating him that well. So i would ask him about his past relationships and why they broke up.
2006-06-14 01:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by volleyballis4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as my boyfriend hasn't banged up, or too many of his past girls, (which would be more than 2 girls in my opinion) I don't care.
2006-06-14 01:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by roverriffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want an everlasting relationship i would say no. i was once engaged to a guy who had alto of exes, i realized to what extreme one night when i forget his number and three others quickly told me. i was hurt and humiliated, so i would say have fun and say bye
2006-06-14 01:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has a past.... get over it. Unless he compares you to them... then get over him.
2006-06-14 01:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u never know.. maybe the other wherent ment to be for him
2006-06-14 01:01:12 · answer #8 · answered by CHVASgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋