In your own opinion, is it okay to live with your fiancee out of marriage? My fiancee and i are planning to get married next year and we're currently renting an apartment. Is it ok?
2006-06-13 17:44:00 · 54 answers · asked by CaRoLiNe-GLeN 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No way, you cannot shack-up with your boyfriend. Get a commitment first. Read Dr. Laura's 10 Stupid things women do to mess up their lives.
Good luck
2006-06-13 17:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own opinion, no, its not okay to live with someone else. Hear me out! I don't think this to make others lives miserable, I really believe it is what is best for the people. Studies have shown that the divorce rates are higher for those who live together before marriage than those who live together when they get married. I am not trying to use scare tactics though, just stating some information. For my husband and I, it was a thrill to live together after marriage! If you are planning on getting married to this person, living together can probably wait until you are married! What's the rush? Enjoy your single time! You'll be living with this person for the rest of your life!
2006-06-23 09:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Megan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a question of morality...it is up to you, but if you think that living together can give you both a "view" as to what married life can be....go for it. Living together is very different than dating. Your "true self" comes out when co-habitating. Finances, your partners' hygiene, consideration, compatibility, and his/her ability to share in chores will be under review...a good "look and see" method before taking that big step called marriage. Some experts feel living together does not help...that "piece of paper" does change everything. Well, I do wish you happiness and luck...you will know in your heart if you are doing the right thing, but think and "LOOK" at all the options. You must be confused or troubled though, just asking this question......
2006-06-27 03:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by MUMNY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ou opinions are just that our opinions they are meaningless. It is all what do you want and what do you feel.
Consider this. In Old testament times the rite of marriage was a simple procedure. There was no wedding ceremony. There was no priest. There was no wedding party. Very few societies even celebrated marriages.
See during those times if a man declared he wanted a women as wife he would "invite her into his tent to be his wife" In fact one of our rituals today comes from that time period. If the women resisted slightly, the man had the option to pick the women up and carry her accross the threshold to force her to be his wife. Or he could allow her to run home to her parents tent and they would not be married.
2006-06-22 05:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is! My fiance and I have lived together for almost 2 years and at times it has been difficult but I would rather live together and know what is going to happen than to get married and realize you really hate the person. I think it should be mandatory that every engaged couple should live together at least 6 months before getting married. At least after the wedding you might have him trained to know where the trash can, laundry hamper, and sink are!!
2006-06-26 17:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Moma!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my fiance and are common law already married. But mostly for financial reasons we moved in together. We were together 2 years b4 we moved in together and are planning to get married in another 2 years so do what you feel is most comfortable with you and your loved one.
I didn't want to live with my boyfriend at the time but we couldn't afford living on our own. I didn't want to feel that my wedding day was going be like every other day. Like day before wedding get up in the morning, say hi I'm going to mom's/friends- see you at the alter. And then after the honeymoon go home and get on with your life.
I plan on moving into my own place while still planning my wedding. Its what you want to do.
And I'm Catholic. I have talked to my Priest and while he feels that its not what he would recommend, its only his opinion. We were going to do it even if he was going to tell me that he couldn't marry us b/c we lived in what the Bible considers sin. But he is marrying us and we have had to go through the counseling for marriage, so do what you think is comfortable.
BTW "He who has not sinned be the first to cast the stone" to all the persons answering It's wrong you are going to hell, blah, blah, blah or that its okay as long as you don't sleep together. Come on. This girl is asking a question, not wanting to get a judgment passed on her.
2006-06-20 17:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by aheikens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. It is a good idea to get used to each other and make sure that things are going to work out alright. After all you will be living with each other for the rest of your lives, so there isn't harm in starting a little early! Also if it turns out to be bad you will be glad that you found out before you got married.
2006-06-27 14:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and as a matter of fact, my Lil Sweety and I don't believe in marriage, and we've been very happy together for over 12 years now, so don't listen to the negativity that seeps from the finger pointing hypocrites like that so-called Dr. Laura, cuz in reality she's a mixed up miserable old hag that wants to make everyone elses life as miserable as hers.
2006-06-13 17:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my fiancee out of marriage and don't have a problem with that. The bottom line is that you have to decide for you.
2006-06-19 07:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 09:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's OK. You do what you want to. You don't need permission from these strangers on here. What year are we living in anyway? Come on? I hope you are your fiancee are very happy together. Good luck, take care and enjoy yourselves. Bye.
2006-06-21 01:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋