His ex is trying to contact him. He says that it's over, yet they have a kid together. Is there hope for me?

Question

I was recently in a relationship where his ex was contacting him so he went back to her. Not too long ago, a friend introduce me this new guy. I really like him. He just ended a 4 year relationship like 6 months ago. He says that he's over his ex, but want to take it slow so we can get to know each other. Now his ex is trying to contact him, yet they have more history together since they share a child together. Basically my friends say that it's a lost cause. Most likely, he will go back to her. Is there hope or am I just playing myself?

Answer 1

If they have a kid they're going to have to keep in touch.

But that doesn't mean you're doomed. We all have instincts about this sort of thing. What are your instincts telling you? Follow them. You're friends mean well and are trying to help, but you need to do what you feel right about.

Accept his ex's contact with grace, and focus on the great things that the two of you have together. And get to know the kid if you have a chance.

If it wasn't meant to be, then that's it, but don't let him talking to the mother of his child throw you off, that shouldn't be a factor.

Hang in there!

Answer 2

The historic saying goes you don't know what you received till it is gone. The Ex is jealous that he has moved on so speedily and will continue to be a trouble except she finds any person to fill her void. In the event you and your boyfriend would not have a drawback with you going to scotland and the kids are o.Okay. With it then why does she even have to know about it? Regarding visitation visits her now not enabling the kids to spend time with their father if you are round that you may name the police and quandary a violation to the ex for interference with visitation she will likely be fined and that i suppose after three violations your boyfriend can file papers that she is interfering with visitation and she or he will likely be put in penal complex however after the primary violation i do not consider she'll try that once more. You must tell the officer that you wish to have him to limitation a violation the price of that violation is $75.00 that's how it's in Illinois, name an lawyer without cost recommendation to peer if they have the same legal guidelines. Your boyfriend wishes to stay-up for you and inform his EX he is completely satisfied and you are not going at any place. The brilliant aspect is finally it's going to discontinue she is going to get worried with any one or the children will grow up and be aware of there mother is incorrect. Hope this helped excellent success!

Answer 3

First of all, when someone has a child they are ALWAYS going to have to be in contact with the other parent even if they are no longer involved romantically, so like it or not, these guys HAVE TO continue communicating with their exes!

It doesn't sound like a relationship with someone who already has children is right for you. It does take a special person to accept someone with a family and all (the drama) that comes with having a "baby mama" because it's a fact of their life.

Don't fool yourself. Whether he goes back to her or not, you're not ready to handle this and you'll never be happy.

Answer 4

i believe there is hope, but you must take it slow, he just got
out of a 4 years relationship, with a child . so it going to be a
issue so i suggest that you just take time to get to know him
and kept the door open so to speak. the fact that he was honest
about take it slow. he want to get to know you better.

Answer 5

his friends probably know him well enough to guess what he will do.
you two haven't been together too long so maybe just back off a little and see how things develop.

Answer 6

mostly likely to go back to her eventually, he will figure out what he lost.