Do you agree with the tactics employed by Super Nanny?

Question

I've been watching Super Nanny recently, and was just wondering if any has tried any of the methods she's advocated and has seen positive results? The TV show only shows 2 weeks of the discipline process, so I'd like to know what were the longer term effects and success rates. Thanks!

Answer 1

I was not very fond of super nanny when she first came about. Then, my sister enforced naughty chair to my niece and i saw how well it worked. Afterwards, i tried it with my (then) 2 year old and it worked great. The only thing is that you have to be persistent. Dont let them get up before time or if they cry. If they get down, put them back up and make them start all over. My daughter straightens up at the mention of naughty chair!!

Answer 2

I can't believe the way some of those children behave until I see how their parents treat them! I love a lot of what Super Nanny does but some of what she does will only work for a short time. I bet if they did a recap we would see some of the families regress.

Times outs and stickers (or rewards) are something that won't be affective for the long term. I don't like calling a spot "The naughty corner." I feel it's just as bad as calling a child "a brat." Very shaming and condescending! Instead of putting the child in time out she should have the parent explain to the child why they don't like their behavior (in very few words), take them to another location (their room, the couch) and say, "You can come back when you're ready to (listen, stop hitting, behave)." The parent should not set a time limit (parent controlling child). The child can return when they are ready to use self-control. When they return, the parent should say, "Thank you for listening." It will take several attempts for the child to get the message but it's much more affective than time out. This technique puts the control into the child's hands and is not the parent controlling the child. Times outs are shameful and condescending (I repeat!).

Stickers and the "reward jars" are bad too. I saw one show where a little girl was potty training. She got a sticker every time she went to the bathroom. I bet even after she was potty trained she wanted the stickers and I can see her sisters being upset because they didn't get stickers when the used the bathroom. I have a different and much more affective technique when it comes to potty training. Rewards will soon lose the child's interest. I've tried using them in my classroom. They work for a few days then come to be expected. Stickers should be used for art projects!

I also wish the Super Nanny used natural and logical consequence. Taking away a video game when a child draws on the wall is not logical. Taking away the video game if he throws it is logical. Making them clean the wall is logical. Let the punishment fit the crime.

One last thing, I don't think children should be forced to say "sorry." It's meaningless when it doesn't come from the heart. Forcing a child to say "sorry" is also teaching them to lie. Other than these, I think Super Nanny is doing a great job (I really mean it)!Her charts, routines, getting down to the child's level, the way she speaks with them, her consistency, her patience, how she confronts the parents...awesome!

Answer 3

Some of the techniques are good. But, I think parents need to find what works. Then there is no need for a nanny. Remember Mary Poppins. She did not stick around, but was the first Super Nanny of Sorts. It disturbs me that there is also no reference to God and I think no change can take place without dealing with the sin issue. One needs to tred carefully and only present what the child can understand and handle.

Answer 4

Absolutely not.

I much prefer the holistic approach outlined in Alfie Kohn's book, Unconditional Parenting. The Super Nanny (and related) tactics result in the kinds of self-centered thinking that cause so many of the world's problems. Raising obedient children is not my goal, raising moral children who consider other people's feelings is.

If you even have a hint of doubt about Super Nanny tactics, read Unconditional Parenting. It will open your eyes to a whole new way of seeing children, yourself and the world we share.

Answer 5

It looks like it may be effective but I'm not sure it's that applicable in the Asian context, especially those where the grandparents are staying together wiht the family.

The average grandparent will not allow their grandchild to cry until they stop by themselves.

Having said that, it's a fun show to watch and I might try some of the tips out myself (although I'm not sure they'll work).

Answer 6

I watched it last night with the kid who was biting, kicking, punching, and scratching and I think what Nanny Jo did was pretty great. Especially, when she completely ignored the kid while she was biting her!
In general, I think most of the routines, and the discipline tactics really do work. The key is being consistent.

Answer 7

lol nope! I babysit my 5 and a 7 year old cousins ...time out and getting on their level and reasoning with them doesnt work. But when I yell at them to "SIT DOWN AND QUIT HORSING AROUND" it works a lot better when I'm scary...they freeze and go sit down. I think on that show a lot of times the kids are so crazy because no one is knocking their *** against the wall! If my kid was that bad I'd be beating their butt! I can't watch that show, it gets me riled up and yelling "smack 'em!" However when you take them to the grocery store it does keep them occupied and good when you have them help you find stuff and carry stuff for you so they're involved. Thats one good thing I got from the show but that's it.

Answer 8

I agree. Any family can pretend to behave on camera for a couple weeks, but if the nannies are cramming concepts down the people's throats that they don't want to hear how can they expect them to embrace them in the long run?

Answer 9

all super nanny is doing is using old fashioned common sense ploys that parents have used for years....funny each new generation has a expert in child care ....the best methods are ones you find by trial and error

Answer 10

i agree i replaced into spanked and that i have not hit my mom in my existence better appropriate yet obdurate at her or in her face. i replaced into taught that if u spare the rod you damage the baby and for this reason i imagine that it perchance proper. those little ones were spared the rod so that they spoiled the baby and now the youngsters are abusing their mom. which couldn't cool and if replaced into their mom i'd be going to reformatory for baby abuse. little ones are meant to be disciplined at domicile and in the adventure that they don't seem they're going to misbehave in public. that's ridiculous that the youngsters that desire the belt the most are those that do not get a spanking. so definite i maximum definently agree and in case you dont choose your baby to be spoiled u better appropriate tear dat bootie up! lol