What do men think?

Question

i'm a 31 year old overweight brainiac. Am I doomed to singlehood are there men out there who might find it all so hot..

I already go to the gym regularly and I eat healthy

Answer 1

Hey, this is a valid concern for many of us. I also carry a few extra pounds, and it does make it challenging on the dating scene. Funny, even fat men want a skinny lady. It makes it hard to get your foot in the door, but weight is not necessarily a deterent to finding love.

First off, about 50% of America is fat these days (if you don't believe me, go to your nearest mall and people watch); perception is changing. Not that we shouldn't work to be thinner and healthier, but we need to also realize that our packaging is not what makes us a person. We are not here to meet someone else's view or even to fit into a societal norm. We are here to shine our unique, individual light into the world. So (off the soapbox), you are okay exactly how you are, don't get caught in the wheels of fitting into someone else's vision of perfection.

Second, make the most of what you have. Overweight people can be beautiful, too. Find those great clothes, and a make-up scheme that works for you. Dress beautifully so you can feel beautiful.

Finally, stop chasing love. The right person will come to you. Just get out there and interact with people, people who might get to know you for who you really are, and then develop a romantic interest in you are more likely to make a good partner for the long haul. Get involved in clubs and groups that center around your brainiac interests. Then when you meet other interesting brainiacs, you will at least have one common item to share.

Be encouraged, be happy,

~Tia~
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Answer 2

well, this worked well for my guy friends, so I dont know why it wouldnt work for you.

1. Lose weight.
-- Stop eating so much
-- Eat better foods
-- Work out (see number 2 for more info)
-- Dont do those designer diets, just work out on a regular basis, be an active person and eat well.

2. Hit the gym
-- if you are a brainiac, you should know that women are more attractive to guys in todays society when they are trim and in good shape. There are a variety of great workouts for overweight individuals available on the web.

3. Have good personal hygiene.
-- brush your teeth
-- take a shower
-- wash your hair
-- do each of the above every day. you may be able to skip out on washing your hair every day depending on what type of skin and hair you have.
-- get rid of any acne you may have. good skin is very important.


4. Go shopping - now that you are thinner, in good shape, look clean, and smell nice, get some nice tight clothes that show off your curves. I dont mean slutty clothes. Just something that says 'hey, I'm a woman'.

Ok, you're 90% there.... now to find the guy.

finding someone that works for you...

1. What are your hobbies? What do you enjoy doing?
-- join a club that allows you to do what you enjoy in a social setting where there are single men and women.

2. Be nice

3. Make sure that you are approachable. Try to engage other people in conversations, especially guys that you are interested in. Talk about them. People love to talk about themselves.

4. If you do all of that, and you still cant get a date, call me and I will hook you up with someone.

Answer 3

all I can say is that god made someone for everyone.. you shouldn't doubt yourself because in a guys eyes you could be the most beauitful thing in the world to them... I can't say what men think tho cuz I am a woman...

Answer 4

So many people have so many interests that you can't possibly rule out anything. I'm not saying to keep your hopes up, but just keep your eyes open. Good luck.

Answer 5

Exercise plenty, eat healthy and you will indeed lose weight. Good luck...

Answer 6

my brother likes over weight women

Answer 7

I wonder if she will give out???

LOL most anyway!!!

Answer 8

you'll find someone.

Answer 9

THEY DO?????