I just cannot seem to open myself up to women in my life and I am starting to feel very lonely. I am afraid of putting myself out there for someone again and getting hurt.
2006-06-13 17:13:14 · 6 answers · asked by john_a_k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TAKE A CHANCE AGAIN but start slowly
2006-06-13 17:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by jon g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, your a very loving man I respect you very much for it. But don't worry all realtionships start with fears and anxieties, the same thing will not happen to you again and remeber to always be open to love. It's the only beautful emotion left on this earth don't close yourself to it or to another women that may fill your every need. Think about it this way, the love that you lost wasn't because you all couldn't maintain a relationship so doesn't that mean you have all of that love ready to share it with someone else just as worthy as you. She past away just like you and I will eventually, it wasn't because a lack of understanding a love realtionship...
2006-06-14 00:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, let me start by saying that I am very sorry for your loss. the chances of something this severe ever happening again are slim to none. life is all about risks. it just depends on what level you take your risks. you can either stay in the house and take your chances of someone maybe coming and knocking on your door, or you can get out there and meet people. i think a grievance support group would be a great place for you to start. the people there can help you and give you the advice that you need.
2006-06-14 00:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear about your loss. its sad when you lose someone who was really special to you. not being able to move on right away is valid in the situation and you should be able to see other people when you're ready. you have that right. allow yourself to feel those emotions. but i also think that it is healthy to take that step forward. but that can only happen when you are truly confident, knowing that you can still go on and live. i'm sure your fiance would want that for you. don't fret. you'll be ok.
2006-06-14 00:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by hot2maly2582 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get some counseling like therapy everyone gets it and start out slow go to more public places like the mall not to find ladies but to jus hangout around alot of people. start hangin around there and some girls will come up to you and if your not ready just say your jus hangin out. then you can start hangin around alot of friends again even if you are older then you can go to clubs or get togethers aand then you can open up. i jus think your feelin a little insecure because your used to bein around your fiance. also move to a new city or state to start over
2006-06-14 00:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by born to live, bred to die 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bummer
2006-06-14 00:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by stone cold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋