My bride to be lost her mom at age 12. She wants to honor her mom at the wedding and even list her mom in the invitation??? I know she misses her mom, but its been 13 years...... I dont want to be all sniffly at the wedding. What are ways we can comprimise.
2006-06-13 17:10:46 · 19 answers · asked by Kyle W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I once went to a wedding where a few family members had been deceased. Regardless of living or deceased she is still the daughter of her mother and she deserves to have her mother still be a part of it - even though she cannot be there.
Compromise:
A. The Invite:
Mr. _________ and the late Mrs. ___________ announce the union of their daughter ___________ to the son of Mr and Mrs. ________ Kyle W.
Most wedding invite are in this format anyway.
B. Ceremony:
A red rose in a vase at the front of the church for family members who are deceased - placed in the vase at the beginning of the ceremony by her father (and if there are others that have passed in your family) and your parents.
C. Reception:
"Thank you for attending - it's great to have all of our loved ones here to celebrate this wonderful day - Although some of our loved one couldn't be here - we know that they are here with us in spirit."
Simple. Easy. To the point. Mother is honored.
2006-06-13 17:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with some of you people?????????? If she wants to honor her mother at the wedding she should. I don't think there is anything wrong with it and if people are making jokes about it, they are truly the morbid ones. Put her on the invitations, a flower in the front pew and a brief mention in a toast. That's all it has to be to make his fiance happy and make her feel like her mom was truly included in this special day. It will really hit her hard at her wedding that her mom is not there. I know her mom has been gone for 13 years, but that doesn't make it any easier that there isn't a mother of the bride.
2006-06-14 06:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, don't go along with that idea of issuing invites in the names of dead people. Think of the reaction of people receiving such an odd invitation. "Brenda Barnes? Didn't she pass on years ago? Is there another Bredna Barnes?" Then the ghoulish (but funny) remarks begin and rather than honoring her mother, your bride has made the dear woman's memory the butt of jokes.
I like the idea of the table set up with photos of members from both families. Perhaps you could add small photo albums (the kind you get free when your snap shots are developed) as wedding favors. Leave a couple empty pages in the albums, and when you send your thank you letters enclose a couple wedding photos to put into these spots.
2006-06-13 17:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't list her mom on the invitation... that's just creepy, dead people do not pay taxes or host social events. One solution I've seen work well is to leave an open seat in the front pew with a flower from the bride's bouquet sitting on it.
Your bride to be can also wear or carry something that belonged to her mom during the ceremony and make a toast to the lady's memory at the reception.
2006-06-14 05:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of honoring anyone at a wedding. That is not what weddings are about. On the invitation you could say daughter of the late so and so, but that should be it. She needs to understand even though her mom is deceased, she is still there with her. This is your day too, and it is not about honoring someone. Sorry but you honor the dead at a eulogy.(probably spelled that wrong)
2006-06-13 18:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how your bride to be feels because I lost my mom 7 years ago. I am engaged to be married and my fiancee knows how hard it's has been for me and also hard it's going to be once we do get married because the thing i wish was mom to be here so she can see me get married but I know my mom is watching down on me and is with me in spirt. Your bride to be will never get over losing her mom so you should be there for her and she want to include her then let her but don't be so sniffly about it. Every mom wants to see there little girl get married but it's hard when they are not there. So try to be understand with her and let her honor her mother at her wedding.
2006-06-14 04:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by heavenlildevil78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe some of the answers on here. This girl has a right to remember her mother on the most important day of her life. If some one told me i couldnt remember my dad on a monentous occassion i would said (bkank you). Her name does belong on there, She is her mother forever alive or dead. Because you lose a parent it doesnt mean they are not still your parent. Dont make a big deal over it the name on the invitation and a rose or something at the place setting where she would have sat. Is a nice way. It will still be a happy day but it wont be if your bride is upset because you dont want her mother included.
2006-06-13 18:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by soeur_deux_de_ny2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are memory candles to honor deceased people at a wedding. Go to weddinginvitationsbydawn.com and get one of their free catalogs. I think they cost about $20.00 and are very nice. It's a tall glass globe with a candle inside and writing on the outside. As for the invitation- why not? It is her day and your parents will be on there, right?
2006-06-17 21:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by red angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not appropriate to list a deceased parent's name on the invitation. Your bride needs to remember that this is a happy time, try and keep her spirits up, good luck
2006-06-13 17:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance lost his mother a few years before i met him. i lost my grandmother only a couple months before i met him.
we did NOT put his mom's name on the invitation. instead what we did was put in our program a page that was dedicated to in loving memory of and put their names plus our other grandparents' names who had passed away.
another way she can honor her mom is putting a picture up of her during the ceremony or at the reception. it's obvious that even though it's been so long, she was very close to her mother and she wants to feel that even though her mother isn't physically next to her, she is honored in spirit and by thoughts.
and for the person who called your fiancee a whiner, SHAME ON THEM! there should be more consideration for the loss of someone else's loved one.
2006-06-13 17:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋