They were fighting over me! I have been married to him for 19 years and they have never thought very highly of him even though he is one of the most caring and sensitive man you could ever know. He would give you the shirt off of his back.
We had problem many years ago that almost cost him the marriage (alcohol) but I decided to stick by him and see it through and we have succeeded and he no longer drinks.
They both got very angry at each other and when my mom started throwing things in his face about what he put me through and trying to manipulate things he lost it. She told him to leave and that if he did not leave she was calling the police.
What do I do? Mom has treated me like crap for many years and I thought we were getting to know each other again and then this happens!
Thanks for the ear :)
2006-06-13 17:02:41 · 8 answers · asked by caching4us 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Forgot to add...I did leave with my husband. It would not have been any other way.
2006-06-13 17:14:38 · update #1
She emailed today like nothing ever happened. She said she did it all for me. Ummm.
2006-06-14 17:55:46 · update #2
When you married your husband, didn't you vow to stick with him "for better or for worse?" Well, here's part of the "worse."
"What god has yoked together, let NO MAN (or WOMAN) put apart."
Side with your husband, tell your mother that she should have more respect for you than to treat your husband and you like crap. After the smoke clears, your mother will get over it. But for now, leave.
2006-06-13 17:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your mom was out of control. I just went through a marriage to an alcoholic man (however, he did not want to change). My parents hate him and do not like me very much for having married him! I guess that's tough love or something. Your mom needs to learn boundaries and to mind her own business. If you are happy with your husband, than she should be happy for you. I would tell her to back off, and let your husband be number one in your life again. You married him not your mother. The Bible talks about how when two people are married they become one and cleave to each other and leave home forever. I hope that you two have done that.
2006-06-14 00:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by davidswiphey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living under her roof, you have a major problem! Its her house and what she says, goes. It is not a good idea when after the age of 18 for any reason especially with a relationship or marriage, to be living home again. Obviously. If you love your husband, looks like its time to go, even if you have to live in a motel. Do not expect your Mom to talk to you for a while or longer. Sometimes the issues at hand are not really the issues at hand, they go deeper than that. You need to look into the real reason this happened because this is not just a one time thing, there are underlying issues you need to deal with with your Mom, please go find a good mediator if your mom refuses to talk to you anymore, at least you made the effort to reconcile. This may not always be what cures the underlying problem but at least make the effort. Good Luck.
2006-06-14 00:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard when one or both of your parents doesn't like your significant other. You should tell your mom how much it hurt you to have her talk to him like that and throw him out. Parents always hold grudges when someone hurts their child, it's just natural. But it's hard when you've already forgiven him and moved on.
I think it's great that you stuck it out with him. It seems like people give up too easily on marriage nowadays.
You just have to tell your mom that you love him and he's not going anywhere. Tell her that if she loves you she will stay out of it and let you live your own life and to stop being so protective. I went through this with my parents when my husband cheated before we were married.
2006-06-14 00:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by megan33wz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Mom owns the house. If thats the case, maybe you could follow your husband and be independant of her. After 19 years you should be on your own anyway.
2006-06-14 00:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your mother throw your husband out of the house?
That's completely unacceptable; you are married to your husband, not your mother.
You have to choose; your mother or your husband.
2006-06-14 00:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by magic621a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask Dr. Laura! but other than that if you care about someone, dont worry about what other people (parents, friends, or anyone else) think! The way the person makes you feel and how you feel with them is whats importnant!
2006-06-14 00:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you leave with your husband
2006-06-14 00:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋