OLD FASHIONED MEN, I Need Your Opinion!?

Question

Would you not call your girlfriend because you were embarrased that you didn't have any money to take her out? Like you are one of those kind of guys who has to pay for everything, open the door for your girl, etc. I'm trying to find out if you men would really do that?

Answer 1

I'd still call but I would be up front and tell her that is was going to be a cheap date. LOL

Answer 2

I'm not a guy, but here's a woman's viewpoint. I'm 37 and the my cousins of 23-30 agree with me. If a man asks a me out, yes, I would expect them to pay for dinner, with all the respect, courtesy, and a gentleman's hand opening doors. And, yes, men do this on dates. If they don't, then that tells me they're a non-caring person and possibly disrespectful and maybe not someone I'd like to get involved with. Once I'm in a relationship and formalities and newness have worn off, then I think it's ok to discuss finances and if a guy tells me he's short on cash then I can suggest a walk in the park or decide to open my wallet. If a woman doesn't like chivalry, she should let you know in a polite way of her preference without embarrassing someone. Hope this helps and good luck :-)

Answer 3

The general rule is that whomever does the asking out is the one who pays as they initiated the invitation to a guest.
In your case though, money isn't always needed to have fun. I'd just be honest about it, but at the same time I would provide solutions to the problem and not just cut the day short. There is always bike rides, walks, hiking, the beach, moonlit walks on the beach, sky watching and just having an intimate conversation someplace with a breathtaking view.
Money on a date can be overrated at times. It just limits the kind of fun that you can have together. Money doesn't always bring happiness. Sometimes it's the simplest things in life that are worthwhile and most cherished as fond memories. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

I open the door for my girlfriend and stuff like that, but if I didn't have the cash to go out, I would just ask her to come over to my place to watch tv and make dinner for her. I wouldn't stop from seeing her because I was low on $$$.

I'm sure if I was really low on $$$ and asked my gf to cover this time if she really wanted to go out she would.

Plus there is always things to do that are free. Go for a walk at a park, watch tv at home, play a game at home, etc.

Answer 5

I totally believe that chivalry is not dead...

I open doors...pick them up at the door and walk them to it.
I pull out chairs and bring flowers and even right poems.

I have found myself short on cash a few times and I always suggest an alternative to going out to dinner and a club...like having a picnic and then hitting the lake.

Or if she likes to go fishing do that.
Or maybe taking a nature walk and finding a nice romantic spot off the trail to talk and cuddle.

There is no end to the imagination of things to do with no cash involved.

Imagine what they did in the 1800's or early 1900's....they didn't have cash...or clubs....so use that to go by....be inventive.

No need to make up excuses or break dates...just change what you do.

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chivalry

One entry found for chivalry.
Main Entry: chiv·al·ry
Pronunciation: 'shi-v&l-rE
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural -ries
Etymology: Middle English chivalrie, from Middle French chevalerie, from chevalier knight -- more at CHEVALIER
1 : mounted men-at-arms
2 archaic a : martial valor b : knightly skill
3 : gallant or distinguished gentlemen
4 : the system, spirit, or customs of medieval knighthood
5 : the qualities of the ideal knight : chivalrous conduct
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Answer 6

I have a hard time asking a lady out if I couldn't cover the expense ... I am just that way! I love the ladies ... and I just wouldn't want to go out if I couldn't be the guy paying ... that is just the way I am ! I hold doors ... I stand when they come in a room ... I am just an old fashioned soft hearted romantic !

Answer 7

If money was all that mattered to her, I wouldn't be with her. If I didn't have any money to take her out to some the finest places in town though I'm pretty thoughtful and would figure out something else we can do that isn't expensive but nonetheless romantic and enjoyable for the both of us. So, yes, call.

Answer 8

i have common courtesy to hold the door etc. and pay when i can, but i would have the decency to call her and tel her "listen i want to see you tonight, but I'm alittle strapped for cash, do you want to maybe rent a movie and stay in tonight?"

or whatever the situation may be.

but it depends on what kind of a girl SHE is, is she shallow and stuck up, perhaps she would become hussy and actually get mad that I could not afford to take her out, so maybe i wouldn't call. but then again, i wouldn't be stupid enough to be with someone like that.

Answer 9

Yeah it is slightly embarrassing to go out with no coin...

In fact 'id make up an excuse to spend the night in if that was the case...

Not that i feel we should pay for everything, but it's nice to be able to at least buy something nice for the lady on a date...

Answer 10

take money with you but only in case you piss her off by asking for head on the first date while in the middle of your second course at mickey d's. there is never call for alarm embarrasment is second nature to a player get used to it or have your career goals changed.

Answer 11

I would probably just ask to just come over her house and watch a movie or come over to my place to watch a movie. I wouldn't give the notation of me being low on cash b/c I can be a bit self-conscious at times. I am a young breed with old fashion tendencies when it comes to women.