Some of you all i hve been talking too, and uve been helping me THANKS ALOT I LOVE U ALL!
Well, tonight, Thomas said he was sorry, and that he had good news. He called me, and said that he loves me so much, and that there isnt a Britt.
Later on, he told me that im a slut, ugly,-(Which im far from those)
and that he found someone named britt, and that they had sex last night. Then he told me, he never loved me.
He was calling me names. Then i told him, that i deserve better, and there's a man that will treat me like a woman. Then he called back, and said im a slut for saying im gonna find a new guy.
Im really done with him. I know Tommorow, his mood disorder will kick in, and he'll say he never meant it. but i know i deserve better.
What do you all think?
How can i stop from talking to him, or let him know im moving on. He doesnt get it! He always says.."No were still together"
Im done with a broken heart!
2006-06-13 16:23:35 · 13 answers · asked by inthisskin22x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
inthisskin22x,
Whether your boyfriend suffers from a mood disorder or not doesn’t change the fact that he is trying to manipulate and control and abuse you. So far, you have allowed him to succeed. I hope that you will remain firm in your resolve to leave him behind. It is the only solution – no matter what he says or how you feel.
The reason that I am answering your question is that you have touched my heart, and I care about what happens to you. My concern is that you will begin another relationship without resolving your own issues. Your boyfriend has issues that make him unsuitable for anyone at this point, but you are not ready for the new relationship that you seek either.
Please don’t make the mistake of rushing into another relationship before you correct the problems that got you into this mess in the first place. You probably think that all the problems that you experienced with your boyfriend will not influence your next relationship, but you suffer from low self esteem.
Your low self esteem caused you to allow yourself to be treated in a way that no one should be treated. It is also the reason that you have to ask everyone else what you should do instead of just refusing to allow yourself to be mistreated. Boys and men like your boyfriend are attracted to girls or women with low self esteem. It is the only way they find someone to mistreat.
I know how to help you with the low self esteem, but it is not an overnight thing. To really be successful it could require up to 3 months depending on your desire and commitment to work at it consistently.
I can tell that you are really sweet and a really nice person. I am not putting you down for anything that you have done or anything that you haven’t done. It isn’t your fault – I am sure that you are doing the best that you can with what you have to work with. If you really want to change, I can help you to help yourself to have the tools to succeed at life.
God bless.
2006-06-14 09:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by tom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two words sweetheart. RESTRAINING ORDER! Make it illegal for him to even talk to you let alone get close to you. With this "mood disorder" whether it be manic/depression, psychotic or whatever, any time you are near him you put yourself in potential danger. If you don't think that he would ever hurt you, well I'm here to tell you that the morgues around this country are full of the bodies of women who thought the same thing. Remember, this kind of behavior isn't about love, it's about control!
2006-06-13 23:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by bluegreydude4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, you're totally right: you DO deserve a better guy. calling your girl all those horrid names means that this guy has no feelings for you. i think he really has some issues and its better if you dont involve yourself in them
respect yourself, and stop talking to him and break all contact with him.
over time, you'll def find a man who respects you and treats you good..
good luck
2006-06-13 23:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on!!
This guy sounds like he's got lots of problems. there are tons of other guys out there. Go find a good one. If you keep going back to this one then your heart will never heal.
2006-06-13 23:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by lisa2233 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to seek professional help from a trained advisor. If you have to change your number and stop talking to him until he receives the neccessary assistance then if you believe he's changed try being his friend.
2006-06-13 23:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl you need to let him go he's playin games with you. and that's where we females go wrong at is letting these worthless dudes bring us down. dont let him do u like that. but if u really do want to be with him then break up with him for about a month and he'll change but if not then let him go u dont need that.
2006-06-13 23:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by glamorous 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont contact him and when he calls hang up, when he sees you leave, anytime you come in contact with him leave or hang up the phone. and your right there is someone better for you. you just need to look harder and see what happens. good luck to you.
2006-06-13 23:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by draxxus89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl a lot of girls go thought that but you just have to try to grt over it i know its hard at first but start giong out wiht the girls that will help you
2006-06-13 23:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_greeneyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problematic subject lookup onto google just that could actually help
2014-06-15 07:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds bi-polar. he needs to see a professional.
2006-06-13 23:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋