I have two boys a 15 month and a 1 month old! I'm been separated for 4 months now, I was pregnant when this happen, I move back with my parents, since I was not working and didnt have anything. The father comes and gets the 15 month old and fights we me all the time that he wants to keep him for the night everyday and he threats me with I'm not working, and I can not provide anything for my kids. I do live with my parents and they are helping with everything. I would like to know what rights do I have. I do tell him, that I will take him for child support and to get a judge order so we can have a schedule, because he comes as anytime he wants...11p.m. 9a.m I mean whenever he feels like it. I'm tired of taken that and fighting over it. Please help! I need some advice of my rights as a mother to keep my child! He says that our son should spend more time with him for the fact that he lives with me. I don't agree! When I was pregnant he wouldn't even care to come by and see his son.
2006-06-13 16:16:20 · 4 answers · asked by Heart2804 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not working does not mean you are an unfit parent. Many single mothers don't work. Would it be better for the child to be in day care or with a baby sitter when most of your earned money would go there? Don't get me wrong, I'm not against working mothers, but not being a working mother does not make you less of a mother. Nor does the fact that you are smart enough to accept help when you need it to provide for your child. Does he do anything for the child other than come visit even if it is bed time? If he cannot agree to a schedule that respects you and your child's schedule and/or refuses to contribute to your child's expenses, then don't be afraid to go to court. Even though courts aren't supposed to favor the mother over the father anymore, you will not lose custodial rights solely on the basis that you don't work. I don't know anything about the child's father, but I know many men who issue empty threats because they know it is the mother's worst fear to loose her child.
2006-06-14 11:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are the mother. You have every right to those children unless he can prove you to be an unfit mother. Not having a job does not make you unfit. Now if he is the biological father of both children he has equal rights. That doesn't mean he can come and take them anytime he wants. That means you both could have joint custody. Meaning you could get them during the week and him on the weekends or the judge would work something similar out. Now with that said you can still get child support from him. With 2 kids depending on his job it could be anywhere from $150-250 a week. Good luck!
2006-06-13 23:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by FollowerofChrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what I know because i have custody of my nephew, per CSB. His parents are both drug addicts, theives, and love going to jail. So unless they can show a straight and narrow path, they are in no place to even attempt to take custody back.
Basically he has to proove that you are definately an unfit parent, and that you are either abusing the child, not caring for the child, neglecting the child, and things of that nature. Sounds like he is just mad at you for leaving. Hang in there, and Im sure it will all work out for the best.
2006-06-13 23:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a temporary custody order,that gives you custody until your divorce hearing,and yes you can ask at that time thats some child support and visitation right be scheduled!
2006-06-13 23:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by cyndi b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋