2006-06-13 15:45:51 · 26 answers · asked by Bigkeem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you answered your own question.
2006-06-13 15:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by batsey99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand more or less what your trying to say. I too have had a similar situation. I had a girl friend for four year. I had been with her in good and bad. It always feel that she bring me pain of the heart, mind and soul. I have forgiven her more time then I can remember and yet she take every thing for granted. I left my state of Connecticut which I lived for twenty four years to prove a point that I can not take the abuse that she was giving me. And time and time again I gave her the benefit of the doubt and went an visit her. She does her disappearing acts and I could never get use to that, at all! She called me a day after my birthday and told me happy birthday, then the next day she call and told me she was seeing so one. I told her good luck I wish her the best and hang up he phone with a broken heart. But I believe God does not like ugly. She calls me on saturday an ask me when I am coming to Connecticut. I told I had to do a couple of thing in CT and then I was coming back home. That I could not see her for I still have love for her. Her reply was she love me an miss me. I said it can not be for if you love someone how could you betray them. No matter how much if feel and love this person I will not can not give in to them for they are using ones emotion and feeling to get to used. They can not love themselve so how can they love someone. I know it hard to do, but it must be done. for I will not, can not play the fool. No matter how much I love them with my heart and soul they are not worthy of my love an effections.
2006-06-13 23:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Herb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say love is blind. From my experience love is blind up to the point you open your eyes and look around you, and see all the hurt and pain you have been caused by the loved one. And it is at this point when you realise that self respect and love for your own being are more important than the feelings that you have for your partner. If your partner hurt you so much in your relationship together of course that it comes a moment in your life when you say to yourself 'No more, I am better off alone than being with somebody that hurts my feelings and disrespects me. This is not the way I want to live for the rest of my life', no matter how much you love them. From my point of view if you love someone you try your best to make that person the happiest person in the universe. People can hurt each other without being aware and that is why communication is very important in a relationship, but when someone is aware of hurting you and knows they are hurting you with their behaviour or words that person is not worthy of your love, because at that point your unhappiness becomes their happiness and this is not right. Any human being should be treated with respect and love in an intimate and loving relationship.
The best of luck for the future and take care of yourself!
2006-06-16 09:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your afraid of being hurt again. If you didn't like going through the pain the first time, you wouldnt want to go through it the second. you have to move on and remember that someone else is out there waiting for you. Life is a long while, and you'll love someone else that u trust and know for sure that they wont hurt you.
2006-06-13 22:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are scared to get hurt again. They love them but are scared to get hurt that the person is going to have a affair with someone else. They need to move on with life and enjoy. I think there is only 2 chances for love in a lifetime.
2006-06-13 23:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Saph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you felt the pain once and you wouldn't want to hurt like that ever again. I know from personal experience but i would take the risk if i had the chance or choice. You would always ask yourself what if...... I wouldn't want that so i would go for it. But not telling you to because i don't know what went on in your relationship.
2006-06-13 22:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's ruff when someone u love hurts u,but deep down and side u always care for that person.i've been there.My dad left my mom and picked his girlfriend,and her daughter over me and my sisters and brother.That really hurt because he went a year without talking to us and we never saw him.i Had a lot of unforgivness in my heart,but have forgiven him now,but it was hard.And my so called "boyfriend"cheated on me he was my first love and that hurt me to.But now were talking again to.I for a long time had a hard time trusting guys cause of them but now I'm talking to them both.Life is weird with that kind of thing.But I loved them so much that the good times and that love covered up all the heartacke they caused me.But deep down and side I'll always remember what they did,but for some crazy reason I can't let them go.That's my dad,and my first love!u just go on and they have to earn your trust back.Good luck to u!
2006-06-13 22:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship once with a guy that i loved more than anyone i ever had, at the time. but he was so bad for me that i compromised my own integrity and judgment to be with him. i stood by him through everything, hoping that he would turn everything around and we could be together one day. he never changed and i had to let those feelings go because i knew that he was toxic for me and i deserved better than him. i am married to a wonderful man now and every now and then i still think about that guy, but it's only to wonder how i could have been so stupid for so long.
2006-06-13 22:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. it takes time to get over hurt and both parties need commitment to be working on it. If the one hurt another, the one who have did the bad thing must work on relationship more.
It happened to me that I found my boyfriend (we were very serious) in bed with a bimbo blond. They went for supper (hallo??) and then went to bed as she was sick. o yes.. she was sick...!! till today he says the same story and as he hurt me so much the relationship finished. Today he cries even though I still miss him, I still feel hurt because of his denial. If he would say sorry bla bla bla, the pain would be easier.
I hope you get work out and talk!! and talk. GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-13 22:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Puzzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is neverending. You may feel pain but that is life. Stay with them because time of pain is when they need you the most.
2006-06-13 22:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because I feel the same way about my husband and I. We are seperated right now and I know I'd take him back in a heartbeat if he asked me to...but I'd be afraid of getting hurt again and I'd be afraid that things would as bad as they were and never change.
2006-06-13 22:48:52 · answer #11 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋