I've had two miscarriages on top of another two...is it possible I'm just not supposed to get pregnant? =(

Question

One was from something unwilling, the second accidental...the third and fourth were from the same guy. I last two months then lose them. What the hell is going on with my body that I can't last long enough to even have them? =/

Answer 1

no
keep trying

Answer 2

Goodness, what sadness.

No matter what we say here, you should see the doctor to save any possible future losses. You don't need to keep going through this over and over when the problem (if there is one) could be prevented. My ex and me suffered 1 miscarriage and my heart still aches for that child. Miscarriages are sadly very common in the first trimester. You could have a progesterone problem, which is usually the cause of 1st trimester miscarriages, and that issues is easily solved with progesterone supplements taken throughout the 1st trimester.

Only 1% of the population is medically "sterile" and cannot have children no matter what they do. That's a pretty low number.

You will eventually get to have a baby, but please go to an OBGYN and let them know what's going on. Seriously save yourself another heartache when a simple solution is likely the key in you staying pregnant.

My ex used a website that has a message board and where you can ask A LOT of questions and get answers VERY fast from people who have the same problems/questions that you have. Some women on there are VERY experienced and have some great advice. This website saved our sanity. There is a paid feature and a free feature of the site. Please join it and start the healing! http://www.fertilityfriend.com/

I hope that you get that baby soon!! And trust when I say that MANY women have miscarriages, and a lot have more than 1, and even still go on to eventually have their baby.

My aunt had 2 miscarriages before my cousin was born, then she had 3 after her, and then she had my next cousin. Then she had 1 after him and then had an another child. No one could tell her what was up, but she did have 4 children.

Don't lose hope sweetie! (Hugs)

go to http://www.fertilityfriend.com/

Answer 3

My aunt had 4 miscarriages...........but..........she also has 3 sons! So dont dispair, go to the doctor & see what he says. Make sure you take folic acid before becoming pregnant & during, I think that could help. I had a miscarriage 13 yrs ago, I was 4 mths along. So I know how devastating it can be. I am also a high risk pregnancy. But I did have 1 child, a son. So don't give up! Best of luck to you & God bless.

Answer 4

Many people have went through this. My mother had 4 miscarriages before becoming pregnant with my oldest brother. I am a firm believer and have seen with my own two eyes that things happen for a reason. It just may not be time for you to be pregnant yet. Why not consult your doctor and keep trying. When the time is right, it will happen.

Answer 5

Go see a fertility specialist. It could be something really really simply. In my case my body didn't produce enough progesterone to sustain a pregnancy even though I had no problem getting pregnant. The answer was progesterone. I stayed pregnant the within 30 days of the progesterone and did it again 2 years later.

Answer 6

You should definitely make an appointment to see your gynecologist. You need to have an evaluation of your uterus to make sure you don't have any anatomical abnormalities in the shape of your uterus - often this will allow you to conceive but threaten the pregnancy early and result in a miscarriage. Also, you should talk to your doctor about having bloodwork done to make sure you don't have something called thrombophilia - a sort of clotting disorder that can result from an abnormality in one or more of several blood factors, and this can also result in repeated miscarriages. Many of these problems can be treated or corrected. But the first step is to see your doctor and talk about the problem. Good luck!

Answer 7

your problem is not getting pregnant, obviously you are fertile and can conceive, could be a wide range of issues, some miscarriages are mother natures way of getting rid of a fetus that if it had lived would have had severe problems. could be that your cervix is not staying closed and needs to be stitched up during pregnancy, you could be Rh negative, could be that each miscarriage is due to a different reason. if your obgyn is aware of your history then he or she should be able to hopefully keep you from having more miscarriages. Ive had two back to back and then went on to have two live births later on. if i were you id see a doc as soon as you know you are pregnant again. hang in there.

Answer 8

Have you consluted a doctor about your fears? There might be a reason or the fetus was not a viable zygote. Which means your body felt pg but the egg didn't implant right or not at all.
My daughter had several miscarrages and now has two beautiful children.
Be sure and go to the doctor. asap

Answer 9

There was another thread question that asked about why people need to have kids..why not adopt...take a look...It might be expensive and hard..but there are so many kids in this world that need extra help and mentoring...Maybe your destiny is different.

Our world is currently nearing it's carrying capacity..unless we have a big global disaster of some sort...the standard of living in america will likely decrease without a much smaller more educated population anyway...so maybe you are better off to help a kid or adopt?

Answer 10

That must be very disheartening. I would go to see a doctor as maybe there is some physical problem that is preventing your body from carrying the baby to full term. There may be some type of solution to the problem and best of luck.

Answer 11

well theres a chance that if you had 2 or more miscarriages theres a big chance is going t o happen again. sorry.
also if you had the miscarriage close together is best to try not to get pregnant that fast. wait a couple of months or more.
dont drink dont smoke eat healthy.