iight lemme make this short.......mom is alcoholic....dad works outta town 5 days a weeek....dont c him often...its a 2 hrs drive.....soo yea parents r still married......mom has all these friends....tht r drug dealers n ****** alcoholics........no1 in my family approves of em.......my mom says "im 37 y.o i can do as i please ima grown woman" she drinks a lot.....smokes....cigs. nd god knows wut else......nd sneaks out at night.....like 4 am wen ppl r sleepin.....to hang out wit her loser friends.....dad tells me if mom doesnt stop.....he gonna devorce her....dont want tht 2 happen...dirs been many situations where shes been real drunk n bad **** happens...police r invloved....verbal abbuse....nd like once pshyical abuse wen i real young....how do i fix this...idk wut too do wit myself anymore im not gonna sit bak n let this happen....i cud take her cash.....nd alcohol...but she'll no its me....wut i do ppl need your help...
2006-06-13 15:21:03 · 9 answers · asked by xstreetplayax101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
holy crap, I couldn't even read that mess.
2006-06-13 15:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One problem is that on one hand she is adult enough to want you to leave her alone and let her choose her situation but on the other not adult enough to do for herself.
I am so sorry you are in this situation. I don't believe you can be much help until she truly wants help.
I know that seems like a really generic answer and so pias, if so please forgive me, it was not meant that way. I've never been in that situation and I pray my children never get into that situation.
I say at 37 years old, you now have to live your own life as hard as that is and try to keep that chain or cycle broken in your own life.
Best wishes to you, praying for you, your family and your situation...
2006-06-13 22:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by I love the flipflops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that was hard to read.
How old are you?
You need to understand that this is not your fault and not your "mess" to fix. It really is between your parents...unless she is abusing you (mental, physical, neglect, etc.) then you have the right to call for help if your dad cannot help.
It's perfectly normal for you to feel like you need to fix things, but please realize that you cannot. Sometimes growing up is a matter of surviving your childhood - you will make it through - this isn't the end of the world.
2006-06-13 22:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by sprklng74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For everyones sake you need to get your mom help. That seems to be the major problem. You and your dad need to talk about admitting her into a rehab facility. If you dont think there is any way in hell she will go you guys need to arrange it... tell her your takin her somewhere and drop her off. Try writing her a letter about how her behavior really effects your life and its bringing you down.
2006-06-13 22:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your Mom, only she can do that. You need to worry about YOU! Try getting involved in Alanon. It helps people deal with their feelings regarding family members that abuse drugs and alcohol. Give it a try, it may help you. Good luck to all of you!
2006-06-14 10:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom needs help..most alcoholic's don't realize all they are doing... record her, film her and then when she is sober show her, talk to her and let her know how it makes you feel. If she makes a mess leave it for her to see and clean up her self when she is sober...Pray, pray adn pray...there is power in prayer. Pray over her when she is asleep.
And call a help line that deals with this kinda stuff.
My prayers are with you.
2006-06-13 22:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by crazy4god 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i spelled as bad as you, I'd be an alcoholic too. How can kids these days be so ignorant and not be able to speak proper english.
2006-06-13 22:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jhale316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how old you are, but you can't chang this your self hell i don't think you can do it at all. your mother is the only one who can. your father also need to relize you can't do this and he should'nt be leaving you in this type of enviroment. yes i know he needs to work but you are his child and you should be his firrst priorty..
try asking other family members for suport. maybe they can help her see what she is doing to you
2006-06-14 00:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by beverly r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is little you can do. The only suggestion I have for you is to talk to your mom and tell her how you feel.
2006-06-13 22:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by ladysodivine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋