I will be left behind still in my junior year of higschool while he starts his new college career. we are going to stay together, but what are some suggestions for keeping the relationship healthy.
2006-06-13 14:48:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep in contact. Call regularly, e-mail, IM, whatever it takes. Keep talking and try to see each other on the weekends or whenever you can. That's the best I can think of right now. Good luck, may you get married and live happily ever after. ^_^ <3
2006-06-13 14:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kirsten T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like y'all have a good foundation to build a long distance relationship on, and that's a great start. Remember that communication is the key to any relationship, near or far, so keep the phone calls, email, and im's going.
It's going to be an adjustment not only being away from each other, but he's going to have an adjustment to the college life. Be patient, listen, and respect that he may need some space as well. It's a big step, but there have been many relationships that have survived the long distance thing. My husband and I did it for 4 years, and saw each other during the summer and at Thanksgiving.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 15:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-13 15:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Road Trip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends how far away he is going. If he's not too awful far, then you shouldn't have a problem. Just don't expect him to always come see you, you go see him too! Also, don't expect things to be the same, there's so much more work to college than high school! Try to make plans at least once every week or two (depending on how far away he is) to just spend some time together. Really, there's not a whole lot you can do. It really just depends on how willing he is to keep the relationship with you.
2006-06-13 14:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by goshimwaycool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give each other space to grow because that is going to happen for both of you. Communication is necessary to stay connected. But remember he's going to be so busy getting used to a new environment, new people, and a new sense of Independence away from his parents, so you won't hear from him as often as you both plan to. Be there for him when he starts to feel a bit homesick and overwhelmed. But if either one of you decide to move on don't let the other person hear about it from anybody else. It's a courtesy that will mean so much down the road. You two should have a good summer and enjoy each other.
2006-06-13 14:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no reason why you can't stay together, but , I have to tell you moving on to a different types of "environments" is going to be a challenge. You're in High School, things are going to change for the both of you. Different crowds, different friends. Don't close the doors but just understand, things will be different
2006-06-13 14:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by jcian68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd find out before he goes what you both need, expectations-wise. If you find this out, then you both stand a good chance of supplying that, for each other! And don't forget, there are many ways to stay close, via letter/email/fax/phone.
But do the above first, so you KNOW what's needed and wanted by you BOTH!!
Good Luck!
2006-06-13 14:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't work and it's a good idea not to try to hang onto him. He will be meeting new people and learning new things. That's the purpose of going away to school. Your life will change, too, as different people come into it. The more people you get to know the better prepared for life you will be. You are both too young to be tied down now.
2006-06-13 14:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this advice i give you is from experience. i was in a long-distance relationship a few months ago. first of all, do u both trust each other alot and love each other alot? it takes alot of work. how far away will he be? you should both work out solutions to meeting arrangements and calling times. now, it will be very hard and will not work unless u are BOTH DETERMINED. make everytime u meet special. make little heart notes for each other, write love letters and do special things for the other and dont wait for special days.
2006-06-13 14:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by indianyute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm sure u guys will keep in contact but try not to call each other every single day or every other hour...give urselves sum alone time...go out with friends...talk with ur bf like maybe at most 4 times a week...u'll give urselves a lot of stuff to talk about when u do call each other...dont bore him by calling him every passing hour...
2006-06-13 14:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋