An 89 yr. old G.Grdma, a Grdma, a step-dad, a 14 yr old, a 13 yr old and myself, how to live in peace and love

Question

We have a family from very old to very young. Each having strong issues they live with and I try to keep it all balanced while trying to keep myself focused and together while suffering with Bi-Polar, Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks. All a life time problem. We love each other but it is so difficult to get everyone to understand the feelings, needs, problems, issues; new and old; of each other. The adults are all set in their ways and sitting down talking doesn't work, each feel they are being personally attacked. I work full time during the day and work full time at home trying to raise happy children. Both suffer from severe emotional distress due to a bad experience associated with living about five years with their father and step-mother who was emotionally and physically abusive. I've been blessed to have them back with me for the last two years. I work hard everyday to hold us all together.

Answer 1

My word. That is a lot of people and stress. Is it possible for you to move into a place away or maybe down the road form your relatives, just to get you out of the chaos? There are usually places that offer low/reduced rent for fixed incomes. Maybe your children can do things to help around the house so when you come home you have some peace and don't feel like you have to race around and clean, cook, do laundry etc. Good luck.

Answer 2

Life seems to move at a faster pace these days. The family structure is under a great deal of stress from alot of different factors, education, money, and emotional harmony.
Jesus cares alot for families who are trying to cope with the stresses of life together. Jesus Christ comes into your lives, not when everything seems rosy, but precisely when everything seems to be falling apart. God's powerful presence may always be counted on, especially at those points in life where people feel the most pressing need and anguish.
God loves you and he will give you direction and stability in your home.

Answer 3

That's difficult. If they can't get along well, let them stay in their own rooms most of the day only to have dinner together. At dinner, tell them not to talk about negative things or not talk at all.