I need someone to slap some sense into me. (Spritually)?

Question

I am a pretty smart person but I have been acting real dumb in this situation. I was dating this female for four year. I have ALOT of love for her. Do to alot of drama we figured if we would do better if we broke up and served god. We did it for about 7 months and things were good. We were both going to church and working on submitting ourselves to god. I started talking to this guy and I really liked him. At the time we were still living together because I could not afford to move out. But she got really jealous about me talking to this guy. Through the pain she started dating other women. She felt that god was not helping her. I just recently decided to move out. But before I left I realized that I still loved her. She did not want me back I came to terms with it and we figured we could still be freinds. We had an argument one night before I left and I told her I cheated on her a year before we broke it off for the lord. She was hurt. But we still said we would stay

friends. She helpped me move out and even gave me money. After I moved out I really missed her. I slipped up a few times and slept with her. i repented and I am trying to do better. The problem is I talked with the girl I cheated on her with and I found out that she is talking to the same girl my ex/besfriend is talking to. She told me about how the girl told her all about the date she went on with my ex and about how she is talking to a lot of other people. For some devlish reason it made me feel better. I told myself I was not going to tell her about it. I was going to let her get played. But I ended up telling her. She promised she would not tell the girl that she found out that she was talking to alot of other females and telling them about there dates. But she went right back and told her. She has also been lying to me about them not having sex. I wanna be her friend but I don't know what to do.

Can anyone give me some insight. I am not going to turn my back on god I am going to try to get over this situation but what about my ex.

Answer 1

You are so far into the material and emotional world that I cannot help you. My advice is to drop all girlfriends and boyfriends and have no relationship whatsoever until you can get your head together. You are a living soap opera! lol hon get some help!

Answer 2

You cannot befriend an ex, whether you're in a hererosexual relationship or a homosexual relationship, because you want to be completely honest with your friends . You tell your friends everything , even the details about your relationship . You cant do that with an ex , because it can and will hurt them , and you will also find that they will always be wanting more .YOU yourself will always be wanting more , you proved that when you "slipped up " and slept with her a few times. The biggest mistake that we (especially females) make is not completly "breaking up " and holding on to something that we or the other person feels is devestating enough to let go . On a spiritual level, I guess you are right that you should be leaving her alone and getting right with the LORD.I'd tell you more, but I would probably have the GLAAD on my black ***, so I'll leave you with this : all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of GOD. So because we are all sinners , make sure that you are conforming to what GOD says because GOD said so , not because of your family or the other people in your church .

Answer 3

( Smart ) Its a very strong word to use, then turning around and asking for help in situations.
First never disrespect God, don't involve him as a friend you can play with eg. you drop him today and pick him up tomorrow, you are a girl and you are with a girl it's an abomination unto the Lord
you need to respect God and stand up for him if you continue to choose the girl over him he will destroy you because God is a jealous God he will stop the foolish behavior and hoe come you are talikng about LOVE are you crazy it is a mental illness to love the same kind eg a girl. You belong to a man and a real true individual who loves a pretty smart girl and you need to let go because definately this is wrong.

Answer 4

you should really try to get plugged into a Christian community (i.e. some type of church or small group) that will support you and help you through this. As far as how you can help her, you need to deal with your own issues for now. Continue to pray for her and don't cut off the friendship entirely, but realize that you do need to move on. you should try to get into some sort of free Christian counseling or a support group that will help you with the areas you are struggling in. Don't try to do this alone, we were made for community, and God wants to restore both of your lives into something beautiful. Don't give up. If you haven't done it yet, start reading your Bible, and talking with some older Christians who have been through your struggles.

Answer 5

I recommend trying more to love people for who they are, and not worrying about what they say or do. We all have problems and human slips. Unconditional love is the underlying foundation of religion anyway (at least that's the impression I get). Drama is ego-centered fear playing out people's insecurities. If you know that you can do what is spiritually correct, then you can feel unattached to the crap that people do and say. I do not mean to imply that sex is spiritually corrupt. I don't believe that, unless it's out of pure selfishness. If it's a gesture of love and appreciation, I don't find it wrong at all, but healing and good. It's just all the social complications that cause problems. It's good to define your values and then create and reinforce your boundaries. Other's will respond with respect if you do. Drama is only as close as you allow it to be.

Answer 6

I am sorry that you are hurting inside. I do have to ask you why you steer away from your true feelings of love for your ex? What you chose to do about your relationship with the Lord is your choice but remember that when you play with fire you can get burned. Be true to your heart and if you love that girl then tell her and share your life with her.

Life is too short and you only get one chance to live it. Love and live life to its fullest.

If you just want to be friends then some where in the middle you must draw the line between lovers and friends. It hard to do but the two of you know just where you stand with that.

Good luck! Smile! Laugh it is good for the soul!

Answer 7

This is all about sodomy and extra maritial sex and does not belong in the life of any christian. If you want anything from God you will have to stay celebate or get married to an opposite sex partner. Then you can START to build a relationship with God. You have nothing now.

Answer 8

Dear:Mast Joh:3:5: Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.Joh:3:17: For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.Joh:3:19: And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
Joh:3:20: For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.
Joh:3:21: But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.
GOD IS LOVE,FORGIVE HER,BE FRIENDS IF YOU CAN,IF NOT ?THE WALK WITH GOD,IS WALKING WITH JESUS CHRIST,PEACE AND LOVE TO YOU.

Answer 9

The bible and Christianity are man made religions as are all religions , so if you want to thank god thank him by living the life he gave you and not by following a book wrote by men with an agenda . In a nut Shell be a spiritual person not a religious person !!!!!

Answer 10

If you are really wanting to serve The Lord, Here's what I would say; The Bible says "Freindship with the World is enmity with God(God's enemy) You need to hold fast to your repentence, and you need to leave all this other stuff behind you; Once and for all. If you trully want to serve The Lord, He will take care of you.

Answer 11

Don't hang out with her. Hang out with a new bunch of friends, because the drama will continue. Go talk to the Lord and do a deep soul search. He'll tell you what is right and what is wrong.