Should I be worried that my husband looks at porn? I don't know how to feel about it?

Question

When he looks at porn it upsets me. He says it is just a guy thing and they all do it. When I confront him about it he gets mad and it turns into a fight. I am not the most beautiful woman in the world but dammit i am not a dog either. Our sex life is regular, but even after we have made love, he will go to the computer and look at the huzzys. Some advice please!!!

When I said regular, I was meaning that we do it dang near every night. We have tried dang near evey position known to man. But after we are done, he will still sneak out of the bedroom to look at it . I want you to know I dont feel threatened by the pictures and I do trust him but it upsets me and makes me wonder if I should be doing more to please him. And as far as watching it with him...I have tried and he will just shut it off and leave the room.

Answer 1

Why are you so upset? He is not hiding it from you,
so no dirty secrets. Ask him if you can watch with him.
Maybe the male version of this. You both could have some
laughs and fun together.
What do you mean by "Our sex life is regular".
Maybe it should be less regular and a bit more "Off the wall"
"Regular" is boooooring! Let him try some of the stuff he
sees on his computer and maybe you could come up with
something new or naughty too - could be more fun
for both of you and not soooooo regular.
Make LOVE not WAR!!!!

Answer 2

How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet

1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog ,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.

2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov

3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.

4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.

5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.

6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.


Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.



you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn websites in the background when he's surfing on the internet


install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn websites in the background when you're surfing on the internet

Answer 3

It sounds like your husband either already has an addiction or is getting one. It is obviously producing a strain on your relationship, so it is time to take action.

Yes, men think about sex a lot, but no, he should not be viewing porn when it obviously upsets his wife! Try talking to him about it when he's not looking at it. If he won't listen to you, talk to someone you trust and bring them with you to talk to him. Suggest counseling as well. If he still won't listen, it's time for an ultimatum: give up the porn or give up you. It's one thing to help your arousal by looking at suggestive images; it's quite another when it becomes a regular part of your married life!

Answer 4

I think it's hard when a couple's sexual comfort and appetite is at different places. Here's the deal....men are very visual. They like to see, watch, and observe things that interest them. Well guess what is always near the top of the list??? SEX! I don't think it's a problem that he watches porn.....I think the problem is he watches porn when YOU are uncomfortable with it. You don't have to be the most beautiful woman in the world.....you just have to be confident and feel sexy and most of all--ACT sexy. Most men do not see the flaws we see in ourselves. They already find the women they love to be sexy....so it's not a big stretch for them when we act like sex goddess's to believe it. My advice, let loose! Stop being "proper" and rock his world. Better yet...tell him what he needs to do to rock yours. Sex can be sooo much fun, don't settle for routine---you'll miss out on some wonderful experiences. You don't have to do things that your not comfortable with....but girl, trust me, there are plenty of things you would probably love if you gave them a chance. Besides, he's your husband....that's a pretty safe place to start experimenting with sexual ideas.

Answer 5

Be worried. Very worried. This is not a healthy thing in any relationship. Pray for your husband and know that this is not what "all" guys do.

Answer 6

nope most men, husbands boyfriends or anything, they all do it, men just cant get enough sex, and they dont want it from anyone else, just like to watch it online, because they can, and its not hurting anyone really if u think of it!

Answer 7

My Hubby does it too. i don't really mind. I figure I'd rather have him looking at home.I trust him completely so its not worth fighting over for me. I think you should just trust in his love.

Answer 8

Well its normal for some women but if it bothers you take him to counseling and tell him how you feel. Or put a password on your browser.

Answer 9

I'm not married, AND I'm a guy, but I think you have every right to feel upset. I don't have any advice, but I'm on your side.

Answer 10

He is just a normal man. Monogamy is against male nature and it is enforced on us because of religious crap. Leave him alone, he is just watching...