i hav been with my partner now for 9 1/2 years and we r so in love and we hav 2 georgous childen at the age of 7 and 5,and the thing is we r not married??? and question is do u think this is wrong??? the way i look at it dose a peice of paper really mater when u r happy and in love with each other!!!!! that u all think xx
2006-06-13 13:26:07 · 19 answers · asked by lurganrabbit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No its not wrong! I was with my husband 10 yrs and had 2 lovely kids,we got married then within 18 mth of the marrage he slept with 2 others and moved out! He said he felt diffrent since we married and to tell you the truth so did I! we are working through stuff but we both agree that we wished we had left things the way we were! If you's are happy why take a chance and spoil things? Good luck to the both of you!!
2006-06-13 21:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is only as important as you choose to make it. If your gut feeling is that you want to get married, then tell your partner. If they don't feel the same then, it's a stalemate situation. You either get used to being un-married or your partner changes their mind. Always remember, getting married, in itself, will not keep you together, and not getting married will not necessarily break the two of you up. Discuss it, relax and be happy and proud of the huge amount of time that you've spent together. Remember, most marriages last about half the time you already been together, so as long as the two of you are happy, then the family you've created is reward enough. Better to be happy un-married, rather them unhappily married or even worse un-happily divorced like many of the people out there in the world. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 13:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Zane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really upto you and your (very lucky) partner if this is wrong.
Personally I don't really think that marriage is a nessceity in any relationship. I have friends who I know are with someone, have children and are not married.
Also, I once heard someone say that when people get married the end up divorcing but if they stay engaged then they just don't split up or something like that.
You could always get engaged but not marry -- it shows a higher level of commitment than being a couple.
Basically it's not wrong what so ever!! :-)
2006-06-13 16:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by The Techie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are all happy together that's great. you might want some legal documents in case something happens to one of you so the kids don't get placed with grandparents, other relatives or foster care. otherwise, if it's been working 9-1/2 years it sounds like you're doing something right.
2006-06-13 13:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by justplaying 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right but people marry as a sign of love and future in case what happens. We live in world of papers and sometimes you need this papers to kind of specify and proof what you have for one another.
2006-06-15 22:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as you're both happy and the relationship works for both of you the way it is then who cares about a piece of paper or what others think.
2006-06-13 14:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by messedupsingledad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. I worked with a girl who felt the same until her son was born. She decided to marry then because she wanted her son to carry on the name of the man she loves so much. Main thing is follow your heart.
2006-06-13 13:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by driver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a point on that it should not matter.
However in today's society you should have been married before having children, because that is the way most people see that; again not that
you had to but.
2006-06-13 16:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i knew a couple who had been together for 8 years so they thought they should get married because they had been together so long and their relationship only lasted 6 months after that! which was a real shame why try and fix something if its not broken!
2006-06-13 15:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are truly happy, what difference does it make what we think? It's your lives, not ours, and your kids lives. I personally think you need to get married, so that if somehting happens to the other one, the mate gets whatever they leave behind ,but that's just my opinion.
2006-06-13 13:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋