Is asking someone out who is your best friend a good idea?

Question

Me and this guy are super close friends we talk on the phone for hours on end about random nothingness. nothing special just about pranks and funny jokes and music and religion and life. I want more than friends though, so should i ask him out. and i dont want to hear girls dont ask guys out because i do so people who disagree live with it

Answer 1

Go for it!
Best friends are the best!
As Friends, partners, lovers!
If it doesn't work and you can't remain friends, well, maybe you weren't all that good of friends to start with. If you feel secure in your friendship then go for it!

Answer 2

I had a great friend in college and we ended up heading to FL together to start our careers. We kept having these deep conversations about life and our futures as we cooked and ate our dinner each night next to the river. Somewhere along the way we started a conversation that lasted for at least four days about "what would the perfect spouse be like to you?" The environment, the distance from our other friends, our common interests, our comfort with one another, all of those things started creating a false sense of love that was not the kind of love that spouses feel, but we were young and impressionable. I ended up asking her to marry me because it seemed that she was describing me and I was describing her. Five years later when she moved out and disappeared (literally not seen by anyone since 1997) it was clear that we were never in love the way we needed to be to stay together. In the end we married the person we could live with instead of the person we could not live without. Be careful of that trap. You could lose an amazing life-long friend...

Answer 3

Its not a bad idea only if you can accept the fact that if it doesn't work out, things may not be the same and it may be awkward if that person actually wants to be with someone else. Also determine does having this person as a friend means more to you for the right reasons? or being with this person because you "feel its meant to be" because you know each other so well

Answer 4

I had a friend for several years, and we decided we'd date. It was a big mistake. Not only didn't we mesh in that way, for years after that, he thought it was ok to call & tell me about all his girlfriends, as if we were back to being "just friends". I think no one can have too many friends, but going from friends to lovers can be a mistake. It was for me. On the other hand, you won't know unless you discuss it with him & see if it works. Just make sure you lay down some mutually agreeable ground rules first.

Answer 5

If you really like the guy go for it. i had a huge crush on my best friend... i told him how i felt and he was kool with it. we ended up just being even closer friends but it was good gettin your feelings out. just go for it and hope for the best. they always say the best relationships are when u r friends first. good luck girl.... and there is no rule saying girls cant ask guys out!

Answer 6

first off, there is nothing wrong w/ a girl asking a dude out.
next, i've asked best friends out, and been both rejected and accepted, and both times, they stayed my friend, even after we broke up. i would definatly suggest that u ask him out, b/c if u dont, u will always be wondering why u didn't ask him out, and what would have happened.

Answer 7

Yes, You always want to date a friend. They make the best husbands.

Answer 8

it depends how long u guys have been friends if ur close give it a shot if not give it sum time been there done that he said yes sooo ask them!

Answer 9

do it because if you don't you will never know what could have been. if it doesn't work out, you two should be close enough to remain friends

Answer 10

sure ask him out hes either going to tell you yes or no but dont hide how you feel let him know up front...